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Blogs > tresennui > Succumbing to Curiousity

Defended them in the past...........but............  

tresennui 69F  
2841 posts
9/20/2009 6:16 am

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Defended them in the past...........but............
I really try to believe otherwise, but men are basically selfish individuals....even the supposedly good ones. I don't feel most men are that way intentionally, or maliciously, they just don't have a clue.

Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui
rm_MrMcfeely83 41M

11/5/2009 2:28 pm

 it's really he human race that is selfish.It's something that is programmed into our memory and brain as a tool for survival...


rm_upagain8 50M
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10/1/2009 11:56 pm

 There's nothing new under the sun, everybody's selfish at some point. Whoever the hell has the upper hand in the relationship usually is selfish, unknowingly at times without intending to be. Men and women will probably never completely communicate effectively because people have these shitty expectations of what they think a man or woman's role should be. I think the closer you get to being truly comfortable and accepting with yourself, the less bullshit you pawn off on other people and don't need their safety blanket to make you feel complete.

my two cents


mepostdivorce 55F

9/29/2009 2:38 pm

 Yep, at the risk of being labeled a man-hating dyke, I have to agree. Men just are not emotionally available in relationships, are basically selfish in pretty blatant ways, and often are clueless about the way they come across or why women are upset with them.


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
9/23/2009 5:37 am
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Don't even know you, but after reading group posts you've written and then this....wanna fuck?
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tresennui 69F  
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9/23/2009 5:33 am
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MBA and then politics for you, is it, Pete? lol
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goodlookincookin 53M
157 posts
9/20/2009 12:24 pm

 Journey said it best. "Don't stop believin'"

Everyone loses faith in the world, or even themselves at some point in their lives. It almost seems necessary for it to rebound stronger than it was before.

When I go anywhere, I see so many angry faces that it makes me want to ask everyone, "Why are you so angry?" But, just when it seems too much, I meet someone that renews my hope.

I went to run some errands last week, and I walked past a small clinic where a man was sitting in a wheelchair. From experience, I expected him to ask me for money. When his first words to me were, "Now, you look like a man that's confident.", I awaited the "got any spare change" request. When it didn't come, he said, "There are so many people that are mad at the world out here. It's nice to see someone like you, that walks like everything's alright."

I replied with a polite, "Thank you." and continued on my way. I spent the next few minutes thanking the powers that be that I'm not the only one that looks for a glimmer of hope.

It can really brighten one's day when they find it.

We live in a world where people define actions as either good or evil. My belief is that the difference between the two is the perception of the intention. It depends on the person's interpretation of what has transpired. I also have a strong disbelief that human beings are capable of evil. We can certainly commit acts that, when taken personally, can be labeled as such, but in the end, everyone does what they do for their own reasons.

This is why, when I meet someone who is very selfish, I try to see things in a different light. What happened to them in this life, or another, that imprinted these traits so deeply? I take myself out of the equation entirely. When I do that, then it becomes all about them.

This doesn't mean I justify what others do, but it makes it a lot easier to understand. We all have faults and imperfections that we either try to address, choose to ignore, or completely fail to see.

Men are under a lot of pressure to be "manly", and women are under the same pressure to be "feminine". Any time a man gets in touch with his emotions, he is called out by other men. If a woman shows any measure of strength, she is seen as cold and heartless.

I tell those I meet one thing that seems to change the playing field.

BE YOURSELF WITHOUT TRYING TO IMPRESS ME.

When that boundary is set from the start, then they more often allow their true selves to shine through. That's all we can be is who we are, and strive who we want to be. Otherwise, life becomes a charade.

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