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Blogs > tresennui > Succumbing to Curiousity

Luckier Than Many......But Still.......  

tresennui 69F  
2841 posts
6/28/2010 7:55 pm

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Luckier Than Many......But Still.......
I've had the opportunity to meet so many great people. Talking to anyone about my "social life", it sounds like I'm having a pretty darn good time. I've dated quite a few, hooked up, play, become friendly with many people in various ways, but in the last year I've had disappointments, not major tragedies (a couple more upsetting than others), little things that are all adding up.

It's difficult not to get depressed and wonder if it's not time to take a break from this "exploring my options" thing....looking for a "relationship". I know I've explored this question in other blogs...This is a thought I keep coming back to.

Sure, I can find someone to have sex with it...but that alone isn't truly fulfilling for me anymore (at least all the time). I don't think I'm alone wondering if at some point in the life of a single person out there searching for a partner of some sort we become jaded, frustrated and question if it's worth the effort to put ourselves out there and persevere.
Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui
rm_1200bandit02 75M
24 posts
8/3/2010 5:54 am

 Personally, I don't think there is anything more intense than sexual encounters with that special someone...otherwise just fucking...UMMM..that's not a bad thing..haha


JohnDrake6 66M

7/21/2010 4:44 am

 All things have a price. People are finite, we have limitations so every effort in one direction is an effort expended away from other directions.

My point is (yeah yeah, get to the point) is that you are considering alternatives that have a price. You may be able to find a man who will put you first and will still let you play or who will play with you as a couple - but what effort will it take to find that man? Will you need to change your profile? Your dating habits, your lifestyle?

Each man like that will, of course, be different. I know that I could live that life, but I would need to know that my woman would always put me first; sometimes that would require no playing with others to "recharge". It might also sometimes require that I be "in charge" of the play. For example, if I told you that you could make out with a man but not fuck him unless I say so and I would watch, could you/would you (hmmmm sounds Seussian) do that? Not all men would need this, but to me, if we don't have the first connection, the most important connection, then how are we any more than FWB - and I know you must want more than that cause you could have that with most any man or woman now.

So, what price are you willing to pay, Tres? How important is this too you?


tresennui replies on 7/26/2010 8:48 pm:
JohnD...I already have enough questions in my head and now you're giving me more. That's not very nice, is it.

itsag1 58M
Ask me for a photo
275 posts
7/14/2010 2:38 pm

 You have to good of a smile to be jaded!!!!!!smile
And at some point, you can have sex with everyone but you want to have an emotional attachment, because that makes everything so much better. I think most normal people do feel that way.

Great smile!smile


DahJeep 75M
8 posts
7/3/2010 1:23 pm

 Tres, I have come to the conclusion that everyone who is single goes through phases. I think you are in phase 2. I'm in phase 1 but realize phase 2 is possibly not far away. I'm sure you have had tons of fun, explored many avenues and have enjoyed the freedom of answering only to yourself. That is what phase 1 is all about. For many, this is where they have been for years and wish to stay.

But there is no doubt a strong human emotion is to be with a significant other which I call the beginning of phase 2. A better definition of phase 2 is "going steady". You're not engaged but somewhat attached to one specific person. It doesn't mean you stop seeing others, it simply means there is one who has top priority and the one you have a serious connection with that has the potential to develop into a life long relationship.

Just my thoughts.


rm_Afoster5514 44M
17 posts
6/30/2010 7:08 pm

 Hello Tresennui!

I know I'm a new add and all, and we really haven't talked much but, I have to agree with xntickk. I've been on Local Adult Companion for years and dating for twice as long, and sometimes you have to step back and evaluate your situation. I know I've had to do that plenty of times, that's when you find out what mistakes you've made, who your friends are and aren't and most important, find out what you really want and don't want.


gentile_sadico 59M
1392 posts
6/29/2010 9:44 pm

 maybe you just need a short break to "recharge", even married couples go through that phase...


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