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Making the Effort
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Making the Effort Do you hold back from contacting people because you just don’t want make the effort? Do you hold back from contacting or responding someone instead of going for it? I used think wtf just go for it, but not so much anymore. Jaded, bored, being too cautious, avoiding disappointment? Why do you think so many of us become this way?  |
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Now that several years have gone by, I think it's a combination of my having become jaded (lost the initial enthusiasm of being here) and the realization a lot of men don't bother to put any effort into showing their current or real self (that is, their profile text or picture is the same as it was 5 years ago).
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We all have spells we keeep away my lady Disappoinment, routine, etc may keep us at a distance , and we fade away As for me , I'm usually a migarting species - always here for the summer Cheers -P
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depends what your looking for
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I'd say repetitive disappointments have filed away the competitive urge to just keep trying. Ya got nothing to lose... Do you? Except for a few minutes of your life. What else ya gonna do? Watch TV? The urge to be comfortable... is greater than the urge to find someone to play with. Put the switch on and go play... or continue doing what you're doing. Especially if you're happy doing it. No? 🤔 It's a cycle that one has to break. And it's one that requires some effort. It's not easy. Is it? ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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9/26/2019 8:31 pm |
Effort is hard.
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Maybe you just get tired of the flakes that are on here. Or maybe you are one of those flakes. Who knows, sometimes it just isn't worth the effort.
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Not just you. I’ve gotten lazy. Maybe no trust, no attraction, too leery. I
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9/26/2019 6:18 pm |
very nice very nice.
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because as humans we dont like the feeling of being disappointed so if it happens more times than not. We all protect ourselves from getting hurt by not engaging
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I seem to be in a void area as there are very few single women close to my age and within an hour of me. The only option is meeting some one on a weekend. Or if I wanted to meet you on a road trip to a Sox or Cubs game. We hear it from all the women here about the emails form the idiots that contact them just become the want sex. Which makes it hard for us trying to make friends and a possible relationship here. Just another thing the internet has ruined in our life. So nice to be insane; no one asks you to explain.
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Because expectations are so far out of touch with reality Using more than all the road!
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I dislike constant rejection so I wish to not encounter again, so I enjoy being contacted instead
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I agree. I try and try and then get shot down. Sometimes it’s just too discouraging. But I don’t want to stop trying
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It is certainly NOT "just" you. We are all bombarded (undoubtedly more so for women than men) with *views*, *flirts*, *hot-listings* and even messages from all corners of this community, many of which are time-wasters if not outright scams. It can all be exhausting and feed into a cynical perspective regarding the time we spend on this site. I note that many long-term bloggers have taken *sabbaticals* but eventually found their way back. Hitting *pause* and taking a *leave-of-absence* may be just the thing to reboot your enthusiasm.
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Is it just me? Also, on dating sites, there is the distance thing. It can be made to work but it isn't necessarily "easy". Wanna try  When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Is it just me?
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