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Blogs > rm_velvttouch > Me, Myself and I...

messed up head or messed up heart...  

rm_velvttouch 55F
2731 posts
8/29/2008 6:49 am

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messed up head or messed up heart...

about a year ago i had a fuck buddy who just stopped calling stopped texting stopped everything.. typical man...lol but we had been friends for years and i thought i was more then just sex so it surprised me. got a text message from him a couple months later saying he had a gf and that he was trying to be good. and i said hey our relationship is not based on sex so you can still talk to me you know and he said that he was trying to stay away from his poisons (yes that offended me and hurt my feelings big time) like he couldn't see me and not have sex with me (no i don't really think i am that good...lol) but i was like fine we can just talk on the phone or text....

and i never heard from him again until yesterday... and boy am i fucking angry about it..lol. he is still with the gf and i don't think he is looking for sex just to talk to me again which makes no sense to me because he could have been talking to me all this time...

and i am afraid to build any kind of relationship with him again because hey what is to stop him from leaving again on a whim...

this is my typical relationship with most people except for a very few. the come get what they want and leave and sooner of later they come back again. and i am not sure i can take it any more at least not from the people that i have this depth of feeling for (casual people are one thing really involved people or feelings another)

and i told him that. that i wasn't sure i wanted to talk to him for fear he would just leave and that makes me feel like kind of a coward because hey why shouldn't i talk to or spend time with someone i enjoy. why not seize the moment and take what i can get now and not worry about tomorrow...

i don't understand him... i understand myself just fine...lol but him i don't understand...

spanisheyes926 49F

8/29/2008 7:19 am

 My ex boyfriend was that way so I say both messed up head and heart. Mainly head though


rm_velvttouch 55F
762 posts
8/30/2008 1:04 am
    Quoting  :
you know i agree with you to an extent and it def isn't just a male to female thing but if you want to go then go and stay gone..lol why come back? if he couldn't talk to me in the first month of his relationship with his gf then why can he talk to me now?

and with arti yeah i have friends like that too but they also don't tell me i am too much of a temptation and disappear and then pop back up and all of a sudden i am not a temptation any more (not that i want to be)


phatfilms44 60M

8/30/2008 5:40 am

 I have had several FB's that were also good friends. It is a way of the lifestyle I guess. We might not chat for years but we always pick it up right where we left off, whether we have sex or not. It is like finding an old comfortable sweat shirt. I wouldn't be so hard on the guy, I broke off a few relationships with female friends when I found my current GF. But when we do see each other, it is always fun just chatting and getting a hug and smooch.
Smooches


rm_velvttouch 55F
762 posts
8/30/2008 11:06 am
    Quoting phatfilms44:
    I have had several FB's that were also good friends. It is a way of the lifestyle I guess. We might not chat for years but we always pick it up right where we left off, whether we have sex or not. It is like finding an old comfortable sweat shirt. I wouldn't be so hard on the guy, I broke off a few relationships with female friends when I found my current GF. But when we do see each other, it is always fun just chatting and getting a hug and smooch.
    Smooches
and you know i don't understand that. we are back to the place holder theory I wrote in a previous blog. people are not place holders. they are not just there to hold a place until your soul mate arrives. yeah i have had less intense relationships fade when i had a new love but i never cut them off. i always maintained some contact, some accessibility. and i just don't understand why most people toss the people in their lives for someone else. hey toss them because they are an ass or treat you like shit or because you no longer have anything in common but not just because of someone else.

i get accused all the time of being casual (maybe even superficial) in my attitude about relationships but really it is the opposite. i get attached and i don't want to loose that attachment completely so i share, or go from being lovers to friends, or some other lesser form of the relationship or keep the relationship the same if i can to avoid loosing that attachment completely...

to me what most people do is like throwing people away.. i am a pack rat it is just people i collect...lol


rm_velvttouch 55F
762 posts
9/1/2008 7:02 pm
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hey it's his word not mine...lol and i was right here and completely casual. he said hey i just got out of a relationship i want to take a year off and i respected that. and after a couple months and barely hanging out with me. bam new gf...lol

i don't think i am misreading the situation. I think i will always be the other woman and he will never get over that and whatever he feels for me is too bad


1600zion 51M
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5/27/2010 1:53 pm

 about your fuck buddy maybe now u can turn him down play along act like u missed him all this time take him to the place he wants to be then tell him u got agirlfriend or girlfriends and some boys and just give him a taste of what he has been missing lolololol


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