1448 posts 5/17/2017 9:51 am
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Intimate relationships
I have played around a bit with the background color and text on this and another 6 of my previous posts. Please have a look and tell me what you think is easier to read and what is a no no for you. Open to other suggestions as well. Many Thanx.
Lust and desire. They are similar. Usually included in the same sentence or context. Are they the same? I think lust is when someone just wants to fuck you. I see desire as someone wanting a bit more from you than fuck you, a mental connection, I can not describe it, but I think it is more than just physical. If, like me, you do not think they are the same, what do you prefer to feel, desired or lusted after? One of? Both? I prefer desire, seeking and offering.
Some women on here say they like a connection with their partner, and I quite agree with the need for a connection, and seeking the same. Is "a connection" and "intimacy" the same? The bond or chemistry some of us are looking for?
Mother Google seems to think there are four types of intimacy that we can offer each other, or seek from. One of, or a few or all four together.
1) Physical intimacy, sensual proximity or touching, holding hands, hugging, kissing, petting or other sexual activity...
2) Emotional intimacy, a bundle of subjective feelings that come together to create a bond between two people, and particularly for sexual relationships, typically develop after a certain level of trust has been reached and personal bonds have been established...
3) Cognitive or Intellectual intimacy, where two people exchange thoughts, share ideas and enjoy similarities and differences between their opinions...
4) Experiential intimacy, when two people get together to actively involve themselves with each other, probably saying very little to each other, not sharing any thoughts or many feelings, but being involved in mutual activities with one another...
Which types of intimacy do you think can be achieved or included in pure NSA or FWB relationships? Can a relationship which started as a FWB or NSA ever develop to something more?
My own view? I can only see the 1 and/or 4 type of intimacy in NSA or FWB relationships, which is not something bad, just seems (to me) a bit mediocre, plain or even bare, without the other two. I can understand there are a myriad different reasons, for when anyone opts out of 2 and 3, and only seek and offer any of the other two. It is harder to find, I can tell you that for free, but I am a strong believer of the fact that, 2 and/or 3, eventually bring the other two along, but never the other way around.
( the numbers in the right order, in my own mind, 3 followed by 2 which is followed by 1 and experiential comes last )
I have no right or intent to judge anyone from all those different to me. I just find it hard to disassociate love from sex. To have sex with someone, I must really really like them in the first place, so I need to know them first, and if I really like them I would probably be wanting to see them again, and have the possibility that maybe, just maybe, it could lead to something more. It can be a lonely world for hopeless romantics!
So before you get your blog hatchets and come for me, I am not saying or judging here. Just thinking out loud, sort of.
And some what else, sex jokes!
LOUD SEX
A wife went in to see a therapist and said, "I've got a big problem, doctor. Every time we're in bed and my husband climaxes, he lets out this ear splitting yell."
"My dear," the shrink said, "that's completely natural. I don't see what the problem is."
"The problem is," she complained, "it wakes me up!"
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QUIET SEX
Tired of a listless sex life, the man came right out and asked his wife during a recent lovemaking session, "How come you never tell me when you have an orgasm?" She glanced at him casually and replied, "You're never home!"
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HUMOROUS SEX
My husband came home with a tube of K Y jelly and said, "This will make you happy tonight." He was right. When he went out of the bedroom, I squirted it all over the doorknobs. He couldn't get back in.
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WEDDING ANNIVERSARY SEX
A husband and his wife had a bitter quarrel on the day of their 40th wedding anniversary.
The husband yells, "When you die, I'm getting you a headstone that reads:
'Here Lies My Wife-Cold As Ever'."
"Yeah," she replies, "when you die, I'm getting you a headstone that reads:
Here Lies My Husband - Stiff At Last.'"
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4077 posts 5/17/2017 9:52 am |
All four for me and from me please, with desire, and I only allow No 4) in, if all other 3 are there already, thanx, now bring it on!
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4077 posts 5/17/2017 11:06 am |
Quoting WhoreFood4U:
Personally, I am a lover of people. I can't have a successful nsa or fwb relationship, cuz I can't open up sexually to someone who I don't know and trust. If I have a one night stand, I can see not getting a connection, but I'm not gonna cum. I have to say that any relationship will eventually lead to more chemistry, so all 4 would apply for me.
Hey whorefood4u. NSA or FWB can work for some people, and for specific circumstances, unfortunately not for me, and many more. It does not make it any easier, but I would think, more rewarding. Thanx for popping in.
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4077 posts 5/17/2017 11:21 am |
I hear what you are saying lady layne, about introducing them to the family! But why not mini breaks and other hobbies sharing? If he is your FWB, you must like him already. Does the kind of FWB relationship limit "going too far" ? Unless of course there are other circumstances at play, and that is the reason he is a FWB. Things like distance apart, time availability,etc.
Anyway, a funny coincidence just took place, or you must be the perfect online stalker!!!
I was logged in for about an hour, done my last post and then started my blogs round. So, there I was commenting in one of your posts, and guess who? Your pic popped up in the bottom of my screen saying you were in fact on mine! In real life we would of missed each other, me at your house while you were on mine! Love the internet me lol.
Thanx for visiting.
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16552 posts 5/17/2017 12:41 pm |
For me, there has to be some kind of attraction or it just won't work. . That doesn't mean beauty. . Smiles often will do it for me. . Or a great sense of humor can get me thinking romantic things. . I know it's weird, but it does.
Then attitude becomes REAL important after that. . Then when the physical stuff starts, I'm hooked.
As always... great jokes! 
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4077 posts 5/17/2017 1:01 pm |
Quoting goodatpoetry2:
For me, there has to be some kind of attraction or it just won't work. . That doesn't mean beauty. . Smiles often will do it for me. . Or a great sense of humor can get me thinking romantic things. . I know it's weird, but it does.
Then attitude becomes REAL important after that. . Then when the physical stuff starts, I'm hooked.
As always... great jokes!
Ohh goodatpoetry. Nail on the head there, with how really sexy a simple smile or look can be!!!! I see nothing weird with humour-romantic thoughts equation, just something extra, to get the connection. Attitude? Another good point. Thanx for popping by.
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41171 posts 5/17/2017 1:44 pm |
I think so-called FWB and NSA relationships can go on to something else. When you think about it, the first time sex happens with someone else isn't that different to FWB/NSA terms!  
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4077 posts 5/17/2017 2:03 pm |
Quoting spunkycumfun:
I think so-called FWB and NSA relationships can go on to something else. When you think about it, the first time sex happens with someone else isn't that different to FWB/NSA terms!
Yeap, correct spunky. The only reason those relationships may not be able to go further could be if one of the partners is married, or married but next door, or a million miles away, other commitments, different plans for the future, etc, which is probably the reason he/she became a part of NSA or FWB. I would like to think that some still want all 4 intimacies, out of the same person and the reason they do not seek it is circumstance, and not personal taste. But then again I like to think I am a handsome philosopher
Thanx for visiting.
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4077 posts 5/17/2017 2:32 pm |
Hey hinj1! I see you like bigger ....fonts, at an age where I thought size did not matter....above 5 inches anyway ha ha! I just rather stay alone if I can not get all 4 from the same woman. He says. Today. And for the last 10 years!
I would think you will make the 500 list, you seem an active woman.
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16552 posts 5/17/2017 8:06 pm |
BTW.... the easiest ones to read are this one and the pinkish / tan one. 
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4077 posts 5/17/2017 8:18 pm |
Quoting goodatpoetry2:
BTW.... the easiest ones to read are this one and the pinkish / tan one.
Thanx goodatpoetry.I have been told about my poor choice of colours and font size. I really never knew. To my eyes, it was easy to read like everything else. I never have problems whatever the fonts and colours are on any other posts, so I thought most were like me. Now, after some googling, I learn that blue, purple, green and black, are women's fav colours soooooooo  completely incidentally I was thinking of a makeover of this place, and guess what the new scheme is? Yeap, probably this latest one with the bigger font, what a coincidence! Thanx for popping back to tell me.
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27112 posts 5/17/2017 11:40 pm |
Dark text on a light background is better. The neon colors are just "trying toonhsrd" and are annoying.
Will come back read your actual posts later.
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4077 posts 5/18/2017 2:48 am |
Quoting FMAOPLS:
Dark text on a light background is better. The neon colors are just "trying toonhsrd" and are annoying.
Will come back read your actual posts later.
Thanx fmaopls, still playing about with the colours. Blue, purple, green and black, the women's fav colours. I only changed yesterday, and one of my secret crushes was revealed last night. Oh these colours, they work!!!
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4077 posts 5/18/2017 2:52 am |
Thanx author. I rather have a self play than cold mechanical sex too. Or sex for sex sake. But of course, been a bit selective can lead to years been alone. Part of the package!
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23580 posts 6/4/2017 12:44 pm |
Sorry for the late response. That font and colors are good for this "old guy".
When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.
The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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4077 posts 6/4/2017 1:34 pm |
Quoting redrockrascal:
Sorry for the late response. That font and colors are good for this "old guy".
Hey redrock! I think the larger font helps many to read easier. And we all like readers! Still not sure for the background colours! Thanx for visiting.
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