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Blogs > whoisagentj > The Dossier of Agent J

So I just got my first gay man proposal...geesh!  

whoisagentj 54M
662 posts
11/10/2017 1:44 pm

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11/12/2017 9:49 pm
So I just got my first gay man proposal...geesh!

Ok, look...

I have no problems with men who are homosexual. If you are a gay man, I could care less about what you want to do with another gay man. However, I LOVE women. Sorry, but gay men do not turn me on.

UPDATE: Since so many people were offended that I posted the user name here of the guy that rudely asked to suck my dick without checking my profile, I have REMOVED his name.

But when someone jumps on me with an IM, and he's a GOLD MEMBER and doesn't even both to view my profile first that I'm into women and says....

"Hey wanna have me come over so I can suck your dick? I'm in the area."

"NO. I do not want you to suck my dick you fucking idiot. Read my profile first before messaging me. You are a gold member moron"

Oh yes, if you hit me with stupid shit, I hit back even harder.

Now I have gotten a taste of what you ladies have to deal with. Of course, I already knew it, but I'm sure you ladies get hit with this every day on multiple times. Which is why I prefer to ask politely if you would like to chat via the Instant Messenger.

Of course, I had to use up a point to send him the message back, which sucks, but I think it was well worth the point.

Ladies, on behalf of a man who understands, I am so sorry you have to go through with this on a daily basis. You have my deepest sympathies.

EDIT #2: Look, I am not homophobic. I don't care about gay men, nor am I gay, but it' simple, I like women, and homosexual men do nothing at all for me. But in the first several comments, I was flamed and insulted because I ripped into this guy when many of you missed the point.

He didn't bother to read my profile. He just messaged me out of the blue and asked if I wanted him to come over and suck my dick. It wasn't that he asked, it's that he was rude and he didn't bother to even politely introduce himself. It was "Hey, want me to come over and suck your dick? I'm in the area."

What kills me the incredible double standard here. If I did that to a woman, I'd get fucking jumped on for being a douchebag. But when a gay man does that, people here jump to his defense because they think I'm homophobic, which I'm not. Hell, I used to DJ at gay clubs when I was younger. I have gay and bi friends. I'm not even grossed out when gay men kiss. But does that give anyone the right to just rudely say "Hey want me to come over and suck your dick?" If that had been a WOMAN that said that, I STILL would have said no, and flamed that person for not using manners.

You need to introduce yourself and politely use manners! With that said, if anyone else has a problem with this, I'm sorry, but it is what it is.

EDIT #3: I've also just had to ban two people on my blog for attacking me rudely over this. I won't tolerate people attacking me for defending myself and my rights to be treated with respect. If you can't understand that, either deal with it and move on or I will be working to ban more people if necessary.
Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...

Agent


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
11/12/2017 6:00 pm

 whoisagentj replies on 11/12/2017 3:01 pm:
Is it possible I was in a bad mood? Maybe. Again, it's been a couple of days from the event, and I've kind of moved on from it, so trying to think back to what I was exactly feeling at the time...that's a bit of a stretch for me.

However, I have been propositioned several times by gay men in the past when I worked at the gay clubs as a DJ when I was younger. And I've had a couple of gay men that didn't know me and ask me if I would like to go out with them. Many of them were cool and did it properly and asked me out, and I politely declined and thanked them for asking as it was indeed flattering. However, a couple of times, I was asked point blank if I would like to fuck them, with no proper introduction. At that point, I gave them a terse "NO." And one person kept asking and I told him directly to his face "For the last time, NO. Now fuck off."

At the same time...I've been in clubs and I once had a woman asked me the same thing, with no introduction, "I want to fuck you so badly." And I looked her dead in the eye and said "No thank you." She then got pissy with me and called me a f**, and asked me why not. And I told her, "I don't go around fucking people I don't know, and quite frankly, if you had made any attempt to properly introduce yourself and use manners, it's possible something would have happened. But you didn't, thus, you were rude." And she then slapped me and walked off. And I did nothing other than laugh because I was raised to not hit a woman, unless she's coming at you with a knife or a deadly weapon. I can say thank god I've never, ever had to hit a woman before.
Look, I know what this site is. I know how it can be. It's just when someone is rude to me, it touches a nerve. And normally, I try not to react, but if you catch me a bad time or maybe in a bad mood or just catch me off guard, I can react. And maybe I did react poorly in this instance, but who is perfect? I know I'm not. So all I can do is chalk it up to is life experience, and the next time this happens...if there is a next time, I may act the same, but I hope I will react better and learn from it. That's all I can do.

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Now, to me, an attractive woman saying she wants to fuck, is not being rude. I would enjoy that.

As to getting slapped by a woman, I give her the back of my hand , in return.
The concept that , "You don't hit a woman" is sexist and ridiculous. "You don't hit anyone", [applying to both men and women], is a better motto.


whoisagentj replies on 11/12/2017 9:48 pm:
Well, it is when I don't even know the person. If I don't know that person, regardless if they are a man/woman/transgendered, and they ask me if I want to fuck/suck my dick or anything sexual, my answer is going to be no. I know others will differ, but I guess that's just me.
And trust me, there is a part of me that is in the back of my head saying "hit her back". But I'm able to provide self-restraint in that manner, unless I see a weapon. If there is a weapon, it's time to throw down, no matter who it is.

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
11/11/2017 11:55 pm
whoisagentj replies on 11/11/2017 7:05 pm:
Well, let me be a bit more clear. Everyone has their own opinion on things, and I try my best to respect people. What I meant to say and probably should have put more thought into saying this is that everyone is going to have their own take on things. And while I will try my best to value those opinions if a person is willing to be polite and respectful to me as well. And even if they are not, I still try to take into consideration and think to myself and step outside myself and say "Hey is this person just being a dick, or are they saying something that actually has value? Also does that person have a valid complaint? Maybe I am not taking this viewpoint into consideration."

Even if people can attack me, I still have to try to listen. It might be harder, because that person is attacking me, but sometimes, if you can take a step or two back to evaluate what a person is saying, it might allow me to take something from it.

At the same time however, I refuse to have someone be rude to me right off the bat and ask me "hey want me to come over and suck your dick?"

Would anyone in public use that in a normal conversation with another person when first meeting another person? NO! And if they did, something is clearly wrong with that person, in my opinion. Now, if others here don't like that opinion, fine. They are entitled to their own opinion. However, I don't have to respect that opinion. That is my choice based on how I was raised and brought up. If you want to be a ill-mannered person, that's fine, but if you do that around me, don't expect me to sit there and say nothing regardless if you don't care. Respect is earned, and you're not going to earn my respect being rude to me right off the bat.

With that said, I hope you understand. Thanks for stopping by Heathen_G.[/]

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I agree completely , that respect is earned, but I think you are reacting to the possible fact, that whoever it was, was male and said such things.

I've been in plenty of lounges in town and at times, some women I've never ever met before , proposition me with similar invitations. I was fine with them.

You have to remember, you're reading a screen shot. The only emotion behind the wording... is in your own head....unless they emphasize what they're communicating with emoticons. But they probably didn't, and you were probably just in a mood, and also pissed off because it was a mentally confused poofer with feather up his butt.

Anyway... you don't want to get yourself into a bad mood because queer guys might take a liking to you. Just block them, and move on.


whoisagentj replies on 11/12/2017 3:01 pm:
Is it possible I was in a bad mood? Maybe. Again, it's been a couple of days from the event, and I've kind of moved on from it, so trying to think back to what I was exactly feeling at the time...that's a bit of a stretch for me.

However, I have been propositioned several times by gay men in the past when I worked at the gay clubs as a DJ when I was younger. And I've had a couple of gay men that didn't know me and ask me if I would like to go out with them. Many of them were cool and did it properly and asked me out, and I politely declined and thanked them for asking as it was indeed flattering. However, a couple of times, I was asked point blank if I would like to fuck them, with no proper introduction. At that point, I gave them a terse "NO." And one person kept asking and I told him directly to his face "For the last time, NO. Now fuck off."

At the same time...I've been in clubs and I once had a woman asked me the same thing, with no introduction, "I want to fuck you so badly." And I looked her dead in the eye and said "No thank you." She then got pissy with me and called me a f**, and asked me why not. And I told her, "I don't go around fucking people I don't know, and quite frankly, if you had made any attempt to properly introduce yourself and use manners, it's possible something would have happened. But you didn't, thus, you were rude." And she then slapped me and walked off. And I did nothing other than laugh because I was raised to not hit a woman, unless she's coming at you with a knife or a deadly weapon. I can say thank god I've never, ever had to hit a woman before.
Look, I know what this site is. I know how it can be. It's just when someone is rude to me, it touches a nerve. And normally, I try not to react, but if you catch me a bad time or maybe in a bad mood or just catch me off guard, I can react. And maybe I did react poorly in this instance, but who is perfect? I know I'm not. So all I can do is chalk it up to is life experience, and the next time this happens...if there is a next time, I may act the same, but I hope I will react better and learn from it. That's all I can do.

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
11/11/2017 6:20 pm

 whoisagentj replies on 11/10/2017 9:10 pm:
Well to each his or her own Heathen. Some people view it differently than yourself. Everyone has their own take on things.

Well , that pretty much answers your own complaint regarding respondents to your profile, trying to communicate with you....."...to each his or her own...... some people view it differently...". Right?


whoisagentj replies on 11/11/2017 7:05 pm:
Well, let me be a bit more clear. Everyone has their own opinion on things, and I try my best to respect people. What I meant to say and probably should have put more thought into saying this is that everyone is going to have their own take on things. And while I will try my best to value those opinions if a person is willing to be polite and respectful to me as well. And even if they are not, I still try to take into consideration and think to myself and step outside myself and say "Hey is this person just being a dick, or are they saying something that actually has value? Also does that person have a valid complaint? Maybe I am not taking this viewpoint into consideration."

Even if people can attack me, I still have to try to listen. It might be harder, because that person is attacking me, but sometimes, if you can take a step or two back to evaluate what a person is saying, it might allow me to take something from it.

At the same time however, I refuse to have someone be rude to me right off the bat and ask me "hey want me to come over and suck your dick?"

Would anyone in public use that in a normal conversation with another person when first meeting another person? NO! And if they did, something is clearly wrong with that person, in my opinion. Now, if others here don't like that opinion, fine. They are entitled to their own opinion. However, I don't have to respect that opinion. That is my choice based on how I was raised and brought up. If you want to be a ill-mannered person, that's fine, but if you do that around me, don't expect me to sit there and say nothing regardless if you don't care. Respect is earned, and you're not going to earn my respect being rude to me right off the bat.

With that said, I hope you understand. Thanks for stopping by Heathen_G.

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
11/10/2017 7:00 pm

 I wouldn't care if a woman is polite or not polite [just blunt] about doing me. I understand the type of site I'm on.


whoisagentj replies on 11/10/2017 9:10 pm:
Well to each his or her own Heathen. Some people view it differently than yourself. Everyone has their own take on things.

JuggsyMalone 34F
3427 posts
11/10/2017 4:56 pm

 ONE QUESTION ....

How do you know he never read your profile. Not all of us show up visiting profiles I have mine turned off so you never knew I read yours until I said I did earlier
Come check out my blog


whoisagentj replies on 11/10/2017 5:09 pm:
That I do not know for 100 percent certainty. However, I was on at the time and I would have gotten a notification before him reading my profile. Which he did not. But again, I just have that to go on. If he did block it to where he didn't want people seeing that he had viewed their profile, then I would have not known.

Once again, hindsight being what it is, I could have reacted better. I didn't. But I'm a human being. I'm not perfect, nor have I ever claimed to be. But am I still in the right here? YES, because the guy rudely IM'd me with a straight on message asking me if I wanted him to suck my dick. I wouldn't do that to you as a man and treat you that way with disrespect. So why is he getting defended?

Let's try to see both side here, shall we? I can at least keep an open mind to see your side. How about keeping an open mind to see mine?

JuggsyMalone 34F
3427 posts
11/10/2017 4:51 pm

 I see you took my advice to amend your profile, now all you have to do is look a litlle less like KEVIN SPACEY and gay guys might leave you alone
Come check out my blog


whoisagentj replies on 11/10/2017 5:04 pm:
And while I appreciate the advice, which I did heed, I think you comparing me to Kevin Spacey is a bit too much Juggsy. So let's tone it down a bit. I'm not attacking you hon. Like I said, could I have acted better? Possibly, yes. But what's done is done. You live and learn.

pagancountrygirl 66F  
Ask me for a photo
6466 posts
11/10/2017 4:40 pm

 Sadly, all the work that some people put into actually writing a profile, and others just won't bother with reading. Does make a person wonder, doesn't it?
Glad to see you back Agent J.
Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


whoisagentj replies on 11/10/2017 4:53 pm:
I will admit, my first post did post the member's name. I have since removed it and I have updated my post to reflect better how I reacted and how I feel.

Again, I don't hate gay people or transgendered people. I do however hate rude people.

VelkutuVoom 55M
135 posts
11/10/2017 4:21 pm

 Learn to cut like a buffalo.


whoisagentj replies on 11/10/2017 4:51 pm:
O-kay...LOL! I'll take that under advisement. Thank you Velkutu for those...words...of...wisdom. LOL!

But I appreciate you stopping by!

michellemcveigh1 60T
1 post
11/10/2017 2:59 pm

 dude.. look in the mirror and thank your lucky stars anyone messages ya at all. what a freakin douchenozzle.


JuggsyMalone 34F
3427 posts
11/10/2017 2:58 pm

 So you claim you are not gay and yet I just read your profile. You might have to amend it a little because this is a direct quote from it...

Currently, I am open to most anything, but ultimately, I would like to take things slow and see what happens. I would like to be friends at first, get to know you and see what happens from there. Things might progress quickly, or go slow depending on how both of us feel. I just want to talk first and get to know you from there.

So you are open to ANYTHING your words not mine. Yet when a guy asks if you want your cock sucked you take offence. You are not really open to anything are you ?

BTW I also reported this blog for not only being homophobic and nasty but for breaching TOS
Come check out my blog


whoisagentj replies on 11/10/2017 4:22 pm:
Juggsy, you are correct in this regard. I will amend my profile to state that that it's strictly with women. However, the person in question didn't even look at my profile before they IM'ed me asking me if I wanted to suck his dick. And as I have stated repeatedly, this person is a gold member, thus he had the right to check my profile ahead of time and it would have shown I had checked off I was only interested in women.

But you are correct, and that will be specifically changed to reflect this so it can be spelled out.

TB5758 65M/67F
577 posts
11/10/2017 2:54 pm

 You are a fucking asshole! You should be so lucky that anyone wants to get with you, seriously. Please fuck off!


Exper1mental1st 48M
125 posts
11/10/2017 2:43 pm

 Why flame him on here?
Hasn't really done you any harm.
Maybe you should just be flattered, and politely decline?


whoisagentj replies on 11/10/2017 4:18 pm:
Once again here, people do not get it. He was a GOLD MEMBER. He should have checked my profile FIRST before IM'ing me right away rudely and just saying "I can suck your dick, I'm in your area."

I wouldn't do that to a woman. Why should a gay man get a pass for being a jerk?

Thanks for stopping by Exper1mental1st!

Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
11/10/2017 2:41 pm

 Not just mean and rude but maybe against the tos giving his name. The site will decide if they check out my report for abuse. I have in the past and the blog gets removed.
Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


whoisagentj replies on 11/10/2017 4:16 pm:
Well if it gets removed, it gets removed. It's his fault for not checking my profile ahead of time. Thanks for stopping by Brownie!

peterlikesplay2 67M
461 posts
11/10/2017 2:24 pm

 why not just say....."no thanks i'm not interested"...there is no excuse for rudeness. I get hit on all the time...take it as compliment and move on..


whoisagentj replies on 11/10/2017 4:15 pm:
As I said before, he was a gold member. He could have checked my profile ahead of time to see I specifically said I'm only interested in women. But he didn't. Thus my wrath was incurred. Thanks for stopping by Peter!

luv2suk1966 63M/57F
1927 posts
11/10/2017 1:58 pm

 So sorry you have to deal with this. We had a local bi guy commenting on our profile, and when I pointed out "if you are bi, then we say bye-bye", he started calling me fat, saggy boobs, pity fuck, etc.... I blocked him.
Hope you have a great weekend!!! *Y*
Have a great day, and be nice to one another.


whoisagentj replies on 11/10/2017 4:12 pm:
Thank you both for that. I guess it's a part of life dealing with stuff like this. I appreciate you both visiting my blog!

whoisagentj 54M
6060 posts
11/10/2017 1:45 pm

 Thank you for reading!
Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...

Agent


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