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Blogs > 80sbaby71 > Life in the Nursery~

Quitting time?  

80sbaby71 52F
7366 posts
3/30/2009 6:40 pm
Quitting time?

How can you ever be sure what you are doing is the right thing or not? How do you know when it is time to just say to heck with it all and give in? How do you know when it is quitting time?

I have had a lot of struggles in my life. No that is not an excuse, I have learned from every bad experience just as I have from every good one. No in the last year I think everything has just fizzled.

I have to say I have met some wonderful people. Some of my closest friends are from this group. But I still feel like there is something lacking. I am not a person who likes to be alone. And to keep from being alone I tend to meet the wrong people. No not everyone that I come in contact is the "wrong kind of person". But I have met quite a few.

So at this point I am left pondering. I want a man in my life. I want someone who I can crawl into bed with. Someone who will hold me. Someone who will sit and listen to me rant and rave. I want someone who will laugh at my jokes no matter how stupid they are. I want someone who will care about me. Someone who wants more than just a quickie. I am at that point. I want someone, someone who wants me. Someone who is looking for someone who will listen, laugh, love, someone who will do her best to satisfy their needs. Someone out there must want a woman who will be honest, loyal......and awesome in bed. Sorry had to say it.

So at this point I am honestly trying to decide what to do. Do I keep on going? Do I continue to meet the guys who say that they want a friend first then a lover.....but as soon as I say no to that first "Let's have a quickie" never contact me again?

So if I don't post for a while, don't message, don't go out.....I guess then my choice has been made. I don't want to be alone. Deep down inside this strong woman is a little girl who really just wants to be loved.
PonyGirl1965 58F
22090 posts
3/31/2009 12:24 am

 Baby, The best piece of knowledge I was ever given was told to me by my father when I was a teenager. He told me I couldn't look to anybody else to make me happy. I had to be happy inside, all on my own. Then with time, this was amended to the idea that until I was happy and whole inside, I had nothing to give anybody else.

I scoffed as spending time with my friends made me happy. We laughed, joked, ran amuck aka had a great time. But there were times when I couldn't be with my friends. Graduation left me with time on my hands. I wandered lost because my parents said no to the college I requested. I got married, had a baby, fought with my hubby. I was unhappy and a lousy wife.

But I was changing. My husband worked hard to provide for us so I could stay with our baby. I appreciated his efforts. I found joy in rocking my baby daughter. I found happiness walking our dog. I started seeing wonderful sights. I still got lonely sometimes while my hubby worked long hours but I became a happy, appreciative wife. I poured myself into taking good care of him and our little girl and the babies that followed. Now 24 yrs later, we are still happy together and have 4 incredible children.

I know, I know, get to the point. Don't give up. But don't look for a man to be happy. Find things, people, events to be happy about every day. Write them down. Find joy in your daughters. Look how happy your dogs are simply for you to come home. Borrow their philosophy. As you see the blessings in your life and learn to appreciate them, you will change inside. You will find joy alone and with others.

Will this help you find a man? I don't know. But I do know men like happy, smiling women who appreciate them. They dislike whiny and bitchy women - not that you are either but you understand where I'm going here. Your personality will bubble with appreciation, happiness, love, joy ....

Finding inner happiness will guarantee that when the right man comes along, you will have a joyful heart to offer him.

I love you Baby!!


blackwolvejdr 44M

4/1/2009 4:42 pm

 Very profound. Very inspirational words. Love yourself, everything else will fall into place. It works.


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