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Fucking bullies
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Fucking bullies Drama Queen came home today in tears because some boys were picking on her. Not in that way of I'm going to pick on you because I like you, just in that I'm gonna be a dick kinda way. Nothing dangerous, just laughing at her. The girl is gorgeous. Not bragging, really she is. She's 9 and I am in so much trouble when she starts to really like the boys. I know they're gonna like her too, and that scares me. Anyone who's seen her and her sisters can attest, they're gonna break hearts. I digress. I gave her some hugs and a little advice. I'm sure she will be able to handle it, and I'm sure it will pass. Her sensitivity to some things really does need to have a few calluses thrown on it. Life isn't always so rosey, and well, some things just aren't worth crying over, like silly mean boys. When I was her age it was the girls that were bitchy and mean. The dudes and I always got along well probably 'cause of my 3 brothers. I had lots of experience hanging with the guys. It made me totally cool with them, and well the chicks...some I got along with, but most of 'em were just too damned full of themselves and too "girly" for me to want to hang out with them. And when I grew boobs...well damn it, it wasn't my fault they had to catch up!  These few girls took it upon themselves to torture me in grade school and Jr. High. I remember vividly a couple of them following me around the playground asking me which kind of shampoo I used as if it was important. I honestly didn't know and said as much. It was whatever my mom brought home and I never paid any attention, I just used it. It wasn't important to me. Stupid as it was they thought it was something to harass me about.  Weird the things think is so monumental. In Jr. High one girl in particular threw peas at me every time they served them. I still don't get it. Whatever, it never made me cry or anything, it was just annoying, and none of my guy friends would have anything to do with her.  Years later as adults some of those girls apologized to me. It was a nice gesture I guess. They turned into complete failures as adults though, to my somewhat amusement.  It makes me wonder, do most bullies end up miserable and in Loserville? Were you ever bullied or a bully? Do you know what happened to any bullies you had?  |
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There was one boy in school who just could not understand why more people didnt pick on me about my weight..LOL you could tell it just bothered the shit out of him..and he was constantly giving me shit about something..like from 6-12th grade..The only time he ever really got to me was in like 11th grade-I was about to start going to a arts school full time and I just remember him saying something to the effect of "you dont REALLY think you can be successful at anything do you??" and whats sad is he really believed that... Nothing brought me more joy then to see him now VERY over weight..BALD..and a used car salesmen! LOL I never wished anything bad for him..but it sure is funny to know HE became all the things he was sure I would be hahaha dumb-ass. I may suck-but atleast Im good at something!
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2/16/2010 7:30 pm |
Bullied? All the time; 5'3" and had constant ear infections and had trouble hearing. So people would pick on me about being short and then laugh and pile it on when I didn't understand what they were talking about. Kind of like compounded interest. Really sucked. But f'em. The postscript revealed that those idiots were just trying to deflect attention away from themselves...
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Peek I'm very sorry your daughter is being bullied. I hope something can be done. Often interesting, thoughtful charactered people are targets, due to their differences from the lame brained masses. As a kid at various times, I bullied, was bullied, told on bullies, defended people from bullies so I was around that kind of thing a lot. Of course one is ashamed of the insensitive, ignorant shit one does in life. I wish I could give a heartfelt sorry to everyone I was ever an asshole to - but hindsight is 20/20 so it's important to look forward. Unfortunately, back in the day, the whole thing at school was filled with mixed messages. 1. Popular/cool kids bully - there's a pecking order and to be on top you should probably bully or support the bullies. 2. Bullies are bad people with nothing going for them. Losers. 3. You should tell the teacher and ask them to stop it. 4. You shouldn't tattle tale. 5. You should stop it yourself. Take action. 6. You shouldn't fight. Fighting is wrong and should be punished. 7. Bullying is awful. 8. Its a normal part of growing up.. Fucking confusing. Some people are magnets for it, just because something about them doesn't fall into line and like the proverbial painted bird get singled out. I actually still like ripping on people, but not if they aren't enjoying it, and giving it back occasionally. Only in mutual fun of course. I'm not a trashy person who gets into fights on the street, but in an appropriate venue, physically dominating someone who has tried to bully you is unmatchable food of the gods  Bullies are normal kids. Some grow out of it, some keep doing it. The ones who keep doing it might prosper in certain professions by using their skills as assholes, but they'll always be assholes and probably lack sincere friends and good relationships. All are welcome to an audience with The Magnificent One oldirtybacchus
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2/16/2010 11:43 pm |
It makes me wonder, do most bullies end up miserable and in Loserville Unfortunately, it's about a 50/50 shot just like everyone else. If anything it actually helps them get ahead with the way society works. Stepping on other people is still the quickest way to success. If they have no talents and no connections, then yes they will end up in loserville. If they do, well then they will be successful and still an asshole. Unfortunately success and being a good person aren't connected. Many kids learn bullying from watching adults. Were you ever bullied or a bully? I could fill several blogs with the bullying I experienced. It's a touchy subject for me, and I don't think it is still taken seriously enough. It's probably at the root of my anger issues. If I could do it all over again I would have Columbined the high school I graduated from. Do you know what happened to any bullies you had? Generally, don't know, don't care. There is one bully, however, that if I ever find, I will finish what he started. I don't care if he changed his ways spends all his time curing childrens cancer. If I find him, he's a dead man. It's one grudge I won't let go of.
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Thanks, she'll be fine I'm sure. It's just little boys being little boys I suppose. It's certainly not the kind of harassment that will emotionally scar her or anything, just being jerks. It was a one moment thing, not an ongoing one.  Thanks for sharing your story. If they could see you now!
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The rat bastards... I always made a point of standing up for people that wouldn't or couldn't stand up for themselves and trying to get bullies to back down and fuck off. I just didn't see their need to make others that were obviously down anyways feel worse. Wish I could've been there for you. 
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Revenge is sweet! Thanks for sharing and welcome to my blog. 
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There was one boy in school who just could not understand why more people didnt pick on me about my weight..LOL you could tell it just bothered the shit out of him..and he was constantly giving me shit about something..like from 6-12th grade..The only time he ever really got to me was in like 11th grade-I was about to start going to a arts school full time and I just remember him saying something to the effect of "you dont REALLY think you can be successful at anything do you??" and whats sad is he really believed that... Nothing brought me more joy then to see him now VERY over weight..BALD..and a used car salesmen! LOL I never wished anything bad for him..but it sure is funny to know HE became all the things he was sure I would be hahaha dumb-ass. Welcome to my blog!
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Bullied? All the time; 5'3" and had constant ear infections and had trouble hearing. So people would pick on me about being short and then laugh and pile it on when I didn't understand what they were talking about. Kind of like compounded interest. Really sucked. But f'em. The postscript revealed that those idiots were just trying to deflect attention away from themselves... Kinda fun to dish it back to them though... Welcome!
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Peek I'm very sorry your daughter is being bullied. I hope something can be done. Often interesting, thoughtful charactered people are targets, due to their differences from the lame brained masses. As a kid at various times, I bullied, was bullied, told on bullies, defended people from bullies so I was around that kind of thing a lot. Of course one is ashamed of the insensitive, ignorant shit one does in life. I wish I could give a heartfelt sorry to everyone I was ever an asshole to - but hindsight is 20/20 so it's important to look forward. Unfortunately, back in the day, the whole thing at school was filled with mixed messages. 1. Popular/cool kids bully - there's a pecking order and to be on top you should probably bully or support the bullies. 2. Bullies are bad people with nothing going for them. Losers. 3. You should tell the teacher and ask them to stop it. 4. You shouldn't tattle tale. 5. You should stop it yourself. Take action. 6. You shouldn't fight. Fighting is wrong and should be punished. 7. Bullying is awful. 8. Its a normal part of growing up.. Fucking confusing. Some people are magnets for it, just because something about them doesn't fall into line and like the proverbial painted bird get singled out. I actually still like ripping on people, but not if they aren't enjoying it, and giving it back occasionally. Only in mutual fun of course. I'm not a trashy person who gets into fights on the street, but in an appropriate venue, physically dominating someone who has tried to bully you is unmatchable food of the gods Bullies are normal kids. Some grow out of it, some keep doing it. The ones who keep doing it might prosper in certain professions by using their skills as assholes, but they'll always be assholes and probably lack sincere friends and good relationships. Isn't it odd how that is? I really want her to not be quite so thin skinned and learn how to dish it back, or laugh it off, but she is extremely sensitive. Then again I guess I was too a bit back then. Maybe experience is the only teacher. And yes, I agree with the mixed signals about it all. So much grey area everywhere really. I hear you about the assholes honing their skills to be successful assholes. Now that I think about it I can think of a few.
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It makes me wonder, do most bullies end up miserable and in Loserville Unfortunately, it's about a 50/50 shot just like everyone else. If anything it actually helps them get ahead with the way society works. Stepping on other people is still the quickest way to success. If they have no talents and no connections, then yes they will end up in loserville. If they do, well then they will be successful and still an asshole. Unfortunately success and being a good person aren't connected. Many kids learn bullying from watching adults. Were you ever bullied or a bully? I could fill several blogs with the bullying I experienced. It's a touchy subject for me, and I don't think it is still taken seriously enough. It's probably at the root of my anger issues. If I could do it all over again I would have Columbined the high school I graduated from. Do you know what happened to any bullies you had? Generally, don't know, don't care. There is one bully, however, that if I ever find, I will finish what he started. I don't care if he changed his ways spends all his time curing childrens cancer. If I find him, he's a dead man. It's one grudge I won't let go of. Seriously though, it sucks that the rat bastards were so awful to you. It may have shaped you partly into the person that I like so much, but it sucks that those memories still have a negative effect all these years later. 
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Good thing you grew up well. She will.
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I was only bullied by one fat kid in school as far as I can remember. He carried on after I left school for a while. I guess he didn't like me because I was easy pickings being shorter and slightly built. Maybe it was the fact that I didn't bite back that he didn't like. Turned out that he got friendlier with me after he heard I had a tattoo done. Anyway, he wanted one, so he asked me to go with him to help pick one out. To cut a long story short, he was shaking like a leaf and fainted outside the tattoo parlour. That was a good moment 
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I was only bullied by one fat kid in school as far as I can remember. He carried on after I left school for a while. I guess he didn't like me because I was easy pickings being shorter and slightly built. Maybe it was the fact that I didn't bite back that he didn't like. Turned out that he got friendlier with me after he heard I had a tattoo done. Anyway, he wanted one, so he asked me to go with him to help pick one out. To cut a long story short, he was shaking like a leaf and fainted outside the tattoo parlour. That was a good moment
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I think we all had that awkward phase at some point, I know I sure did! It feels good to stand up for someone doesn't it?
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You know what really gets me? Is when I get so mad that I can't do anything but cry. It doesn't happen very often any more, but sometimes when I was a kid it'd happen. Sucks.  And yeah, I had YEARS of speech therapy to cure a stutter. I get the speech issues. I see some of those people that were bullies in school at the face place. Always cracks me up to see where they're at. Yeah, I don't have anything to do with them either.
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