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Incel
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Incel I once heard man say that sex for a woman is a choice and for men is a chore. Then I read that another name for sexual frustration is "man disease." Then I heard that a single man is common, but a single woman is seen as odd. I don't really know where I'm going with this, but my mind drifts to the idea that women are attracted to men that are taken. And nice guys don't have a game piece on the board. I don't know how to connect it other to bring up love-shyness. Nice guys and shy people have it, and are sometimes unable to attract romantic partners or maintain a relationship. That coupled with the media images and the public displays of affection can make some people desperate, resentful, or depressed. And neither one of those is attractive. Unless the partner has a parenting complex, then they're co-dependent, and that's a different trail in a darker forest. That's not to say that men suffer alone. It works both ways, but the game is shifted slightly to female side. The guy has to make the first move, carry a conversation, spark interest, not appear clingy, etc... I'm not saying that men alone suffer, but social conditioning has a better support system for women. Then I learned about fake engagement rings. The selection process is something I just don't get. There are books on how to find Mr. Right, then there are deterrents like fake rings and cock blocking. The first example I can think of is when a guy and a girl are talking, and a friend of the girl's comes over and pulls her away to go back to the group or leave the establishment. A comedian called it the "We gotta go" girl. Worse can said of people that don't have social skills; like myself. We stand in the corner, drink's to our chest, looking at the floor, and occasionally look at a girl. But rarely act on it. Then if an attempt is made to talk to her, the battle's lost before we're even halfway there. AKA Approach Anxiety. Constant bouts along with rejection can cause involuntary<b> celibacy. </font></b>Incel is considered a disorder, and is very depressing to have. Through outside circumstances or against their will, some people just can't get laid. This goes back to social conditioning. Women are horny creatures who crave sex just as much as men, but people aren't supposed to think like that. Women with sex on the brain can be viewed in their social circles as sluts and could be shunned or ridiculed. Hence the anti-slut defense. And this thought process makes women be seen as china dolls or fragile objects to be handled with care. The pedestal. This creates passive personalities to have men mask their carnal desires and be seen as nice guys, which are not, at large, attractive. And the guys that do direct are met with lines of being a player or a sexist pig. Re-enforcing the slut defense which creates rejection. And to some people rejection is beyond painful. So to avoid rejection, no approaching. Therefore no relationship, a person can become desperate which is even more off-putting, and the cycles repeats itself for people with love-shyness. Self destructive behavior pattern and incel continues. It's bad enough suffering from incel, but it's even worse to compete with the guys that either jade women or boost their bitch shields. I remember once looking a guy approach two women on the dance floor. He came in from behind, beer up to his chest, and just stood there pining for attention. The girls acknowledged him, and after a short period of time lost interest. But he stayed even though they had shut him out. Then I read how some women hate to be hit on in bars or club, even though the primary goals of places like those are for social interaction and displays of sexuality. I just find it amazing that people who claim to be mature act childish, and then cry, pout, and shout when things don't go their way. And will someone please explain why wedding parties carry giant penises, act extremely promiscuous, but are shocked and outraged when people hit on them. Yes, men need more tact than just asking to fuck, but don't say you're a vegetarian while eating a hamburger in a butcher shop. I read some of the dumbest excuses on why couples break up, then read about the torment that socially anxious shy people deal with in trying to win somebody's affections. Or at least get a dance grind. I can see where the philosophy of hating players comes from. Yes, it's wrong to play with emotions which can be seen as lying, but it's a two way street. Guys have emotions too, and there should be no shame in wanting physical contact. Some people just want to have sex. Otherwise one night stands and the morning after pill wouldn't exist. |
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3/31/2011 12:29 am |
Sex can be viewed as a hobby, so long as you can make the separation.
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