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Real Life Dates vs AFF Dates  

im_soaking_wet 40F
4265 posts
5/14/2011 11:12 am
Real Life Dates vs AFF Dates
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ladyj_1957 66F
2359 posts
5/14/2011 11:56 am

 We just never know....

I understand why you are saying you have a double standard, but I don't think it's unwise that you have it. And, if you were to change the way you handle anything, it should be the real life freedom with information. It's sad that we have to be so careful, but necessary.
"Don't count the days, make the days count"


im_soaking_wet replies on 5/14/2011 10:05 pm:
It is sad, but I think that being safe is better than being sorry. There are just too many weirdos out and about

CO_adventures 37M
272 posts
5/14/2011 12:06 pm

 I myself have thought about this separate set of standards in the past.

I know when a lady and I are talking on here about potentially meeting, that we are both cautious, her likely even more than I for physical safety reasons, and justifiably so. There are a lot of up front and sometimes in depth questions that get asked.

But in the rest of life, this can just be seen as nosy. We are more likely to trust someone we meet at a bar while both have been drinking than we are when meeting here and starting by talking.

My take is that its because its new and non-traditional, so its something we are weary of.


im_soaking_wet replies on 5/14/2011 10:08 pm:
Interesting thoughts. I contemplated this today, see my post at the bottom of the page

cute_n_nerdy 43F
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1478 posts
5/14/2011 1:09 pm

 I'm a lot like you in that regard. I've been kinda dating a couple of guys who are *not* from this site in the last week or so, and I'm excited in a way that I've never been for men from here (no offense, men from here - you're all awesome too, I swear!)

It's just - I'm more relaxed around them, and I feel more myself. Perhaps it's because we spend more time in person than we do online, so much so that I've gotten a better feel for them - maybe it's the same for you too?


im_soaking_wet replies on 5/14/2011 10:09 pm:
It could be. I am able to read body language, micro expressions and glances when I'm with someone. Over a messaging system, they can say whatever they want and it doesnt have to be true..

creativelicense6 65F

5/14/2011 3:12 pm

 I have double standards too. If I meet a guy on Local Adult Companion, that automatically means he stays in the Local Adult Companion category and doesn't get to be a real-life friend. You don't know if someone you meet the old-fashioned way is on Local Adult Companion, but if I find out he is that's grounds for instant dumping. That may be harsh, but I've met a lot of guys on Local Adult Companion, and not one of them is worth keeping.


im_soaking_wet replies on 5/14/2011 10:11 pm:
I agree. My Local Adult Companion men stay in the Local Adult Companion pile. However, I can say I have met 8 people off this site and I can honestly say that the friendships that have been cultivated with them, are more than I would have ever expected. So, I think there are exceptions to the rule

im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 posts
5/14/2011 10:15 pm

 I've been thinking about this all day and I think I've come to a conclusion.

- I am comfortable because I am with them. Not chatting online, but am physically with them.

- I am able to ask them questions about themselves instead of reading about it in a profile.

- The people that are non-Local Adult Companion are people that do not have access to compromising photos.. lol.

- I don't need to worry about mixing my personal life with my private life or my Local Adult Companion life. A "date" mixes the first two and the Local Adult Companion one can stay in the shadows.


Mr_Muscle57 75M
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26 posts
5/17/2011 7:54 pm

 I don't know how many of us there are..but, I have never met anyone from Local Adult Companion. There seems to be lots of talk, people become Local Adult Companion friends, but how many actualy meet for, as you say justforfun, to screw.
I would love to meet you justforfun. As you can tell from my profile I live in EDmonton, but I will be in Calgary on May 27/28. Meet me for a coffee/drink?


hunterpt 62M
13507 posts
11/20/2015 3:50 am

 I only met 3 women from Local Adult Companion and wasn´t so hot as i expected. Kisses


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