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You Overwhelm Me With Too Much Information  

DoLickMyMussel 51F
287 posts
2/27/2011 1:18 pm
You Overwhelm Me With Too Much Information


You overwhelm me with too much information.

Sometimes, when I sent a message to a guy that I hotlisted and spanked, I get overwhelmed with their first response. Some men immediately send and attach their full profile, without even saying 'Hi, Hello..." or without even introducing/saying their names. It is a big turn-off for me. And yet, these men mention that they can "carry" a conversation, or that they're a "good conversationalist"...?! (EVIL, SARCASTIC LAUGH)

I did send some men this message:
"Hi, I am Nikki. What is your name?"

And I am not in the habit of being lazy to talk to by attaching my full Xmatch profile.

The first time I meet someone, whether in person or online, I just keep it simple. I do not like to be overwhelmed by TMI. I want to converse with you, and learn more interesting things about you along the way, or, as we become regular FBs, I discover more dark, erotic things about you!

Why can't some men give me a simple intro or, just a simple 'Hi, Hello...'? Is that how you conduct yourself in public and in private? You need to brush-up your social skills.

jbaye 48M
9 posts
2/27/2011 2:01 pm

(Hi, I'm J, Nice to hear from you!)

I think for many men, there's tendency to want to present something, anything that separates us out in what seems to be a severely skewed sex ratio environment. The great number of messages sent to the far, far smaller number of replies can compel one to send a whole lot more information in hopes that some small morsel entices a reply.

Of course, this is more an issue when blindly mailing a new contact. In the situation where one is responding to a note from someone else, a more personal reply, more coversational, seems more appropriate, though I suspect with many, habits are just hard to break.


DoLickMyMussel 51F
100 posts
2/27/2011 9:49 pm

    Quoting jbaye:
    (Hi, I'm J, Nice to hear from you!)

    I think for many men, there's tendency to want to present something, anything that separates us out in what seems to be a severely skewed sex ratio environment. The great number of messages sent to the far, far smaller number of replies can compel one to send a whole lot more information in hopes that some small morsel entices a reply.

    Of course, this is more an issue when blindly mailing a new contact. In the situation where one is responding to a note from someone else, a more personal reply, more coversational, seems more appropriate, though I suspect with many, habits are just hard to break.
Thanks for your response!

By the way, I am Nikki.

What is your name?

So you're looking for the ultimate mismatch? (Evil Laugh)


havinablast36 50M

2/28/2011 3:13 pm

I think Jbaye is absolutely correct. men on here are keenly aware they out number the women so I think they try to cram so much in the first email in the hope something sticks.


DoLickMyMussel 51F
100 posts
2/28/2011 8:51 pm

    Quoting havinablast36:
    I think Jbaye is absolutely correct. men on here are keenly aware they out number the women so I think they try to cram so much in the first email in the hope something sticks.
Thanks for your response!

I read your blogs and I got stung with the most recent blog that you posted. And yes, I made a comment.


havinablast36 50M

3/2/2011 6:00 pm

    Quoting DoLickMyMussel:
    Thanks for your response!

    I read your blogs and I got stung with the most recent blog that you posted. And yes, I made a comment.
Stung? How so?


DoLickMyMussel 51F
100 posts
3/2/2011 10:49 pm

I got stung because there is some similarity of your story with me & Allen--my former Real Fuck Buddy. Your story reminded me of him. And it made me sad and lonely. I miss My BFF...


rm_latinonicoya 62M
318 posts
3/3/2011 9:01 am

Hola mi amor ....yes its true it seems a lot of men have lost their "social skills" ,I personally blame the internet for the lack of human inter-action .I also agree with you .... why "pour" yourself out to a person on your initial meeting ? What would you have to talk about later ?


pytimesx 64M
988 posts
3/3/2011 7:54 pm

Non-members are known to have limited access to profiles. Its just possible these men are simply conscientious about limited access. If emails qualify "tell me a little about yourself", it's simply poor attention to detail. The signs are there for those open to interpretation.

...thinking outside the box often results in a happy box...


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