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Blogs > thegrlsnme > Thoughts from a late bloomer

Don't take it personally, I don't  

thegrlsnme 67F
2769 posts
9/4/2016 5:18 pm
Don't take it personally, I don't

Good evening, I hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face. Mine sure does need to be there.

On all dating sites as well as when meeting the old fashioned way, we all have our type we are attracted to.

I have gone on some meet n greets meeting someone that is not my type.

Sometimes the person says or does something I like, and I figure what the hell, meet them. You never know.

I also have gone on meet n greets, and the guy does not look like the picture I was sent.

One of my deal breakers is the size of a man. I prefer an average size to a Lil larger man.

I also prefer the man at least my size. I'm afraid if they are smaller, I will squish them. I know, that's just me.

I was in a relationship with a very large guy. It was ok, for a time, but after he broke it off for whatever reason he did, that was it.

He was the last very large framed guy I dated.

I don't want to insult anybody for their size, but if you keep pressing, I will.

The person I said it too, was someone that I had been out with a time or two. Playtime was scheduled, and he backed out or had something come up.

Needless to say, it never got out of the gate.

A couple years later, he is hitting me up again. He posted a pic, and he is much larger then he was then.

I know, I should have made up something instead of being honest. But I was honest.

I told him, I couldn't and why. He said that surprised him, I said that.

Anyway, I messaged him back, and said when I met him , and thinking back it was 4 years ago. I was in a different place then I am now.

For whatever reason we all do have our types, our deal breakers, and something we are looking for.

If I or you don't fill that person's wants, or there are deal breakers, things are not going anywhere.

Unless both parties don't care.

It used to bother me at first, but like one guy said years ago, it's pretty simple.

Nothing against you, we all have our types, or something we are looking for.

It seems several of you feel slighted for whatever reason, when I turn you down.

I would say I'm involved with someone, but then I would get, why are you here.

I have learned not to take a turn down, personally.

After all, there are billions of us on this planet.

We have a lot of chances, and choices.

I don't sweat it. If it's going to happen it will.

Have a wonderful evening.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls
benard69 66M/66F  

9/4/2016 6:10 pm

 Thank you for typing Very Large...Didn't need my glasses....


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/4/2016 6:41 pm
    Quoting mcmaniac:
    I have my types, too. I think we all do. I tried to be open with myself a few years back and ignore those thoughts, but I wasn't enjoying sex with non-types, it wasn't what I wanted. A girl very much my type came along a few months back, but I ignored my wants, I've been in such a funk for the last couple of years. I have so many aspects of my personal life that I need to fix.
I find if I go against type for the sex, usually lats maybe a month......thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/4/2016 6:42 pm
    Quoting benard69:
    Thank you for typing Very Large...Didn't need my glasses....
I prefer it myself as well..........thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/4/2016 6:44 pm
    Quoting  :
I took it personally the first few times it happened. Then a guy said, hey, it's not you. You are just not my type. It was simple.......thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


BrownEyedBBW 55F  
8831 posts
9/4/2016 7:41 pm

 I told him, I couldn't and why. He said that surprised him, I said that.

This is a mistake, never give a reason. (a) You're an adult and don't have to answer to anyone for who you choose to be (not not be) with. (b) the only thing the other person can do with that information is try to convince you that you are wrong and should change your mind.

It's not rude to keep that information to yourself.


porterpiper1 57F
3755 posts
9/4/2016 9:25 pm

 Thank you, I wish people on here would stop trying to make someone feel guilty because they don't want to be with them, BECAUSE THEY ARE ON THIS SITE, IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT A PERSON IS GOING TO FUCK EVERY PERSON THAT CONTACT THEM.


coreyoral4u2015 45M
59 posts
9/4/2016 9:28 pm

 Personally, I feel like it is not incumbent on you to explain why you are not interested. Maybe you want to be nice but telling someone you are not interested should be enough and should be respected. If a person has issue with that then that is their problem, not yours. If your profile states what you are and are not looking for then therein can be the explanation.


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/4/2016 9:50 pm
    Quoting BrownEyedBBW:
    I told him, I couldn't and why. He said that surprised him, I said that.

    This is a mistake, never give a reason. (a) You're an adult and don't have to answer to anyone for who you choose to be (not not be) with. (b) the only thing the other person can do with that information is try to convince you that you are wrong and should change your mind.

    It's not rude to keep that information to yourself.
I can do that. Thanks for the comment. I'm one of those people who think everything needs an explanation........thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/4/2016 9:52 pm
    Quoting  :
Some men want to know why....thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


Not_here2meet 55F
3843 posts
9/5/2016 6:09 am

 Ahh yes, we all have our "types".

I find it fascinating when people become upset over being told they've crossed a boundary or aren't your type.

Happy Labor Day
Live life to it's fullest!

If you're bored, Read
Hugs
Gypsy


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/5/2016 6:30 am
    Quoting porterpiper1:
    Thank you, I wish people on here would stop trying to make someone feel guilty because they don't want to be with them, BECAUSE THEY ARE ON THIS SITE, IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT A PERSON IS GOING TO FUCK EVERY PERSON THAT CONTACT THEM.
I think they do that because they can't handle rejection of any sort...thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/5/2016 5:55 pm
    Quoting Not_here2meet:
    Ahh yes, we all have our "types".

    I find it fascinating when people become upset over being told they've crossed a boundary or aren't your type.

    Happy Labor Day
People take things too seriously online. Why should you, you haven't met that person yet.....thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


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