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One Time Too Many
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Good for you, definitely the RIGHT thing to do!
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10/19/2012 6:40 pm |
you did the right thing
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Some things you have to live through to understand them. I spent the vast majority of my child and young adulthood living in that kind of house except I had the added benefits of multiple pedophiles and drug addicts in my picture. More than likely these kids have a lot more than what you suspect, think or see. From the childrens' point of view I have to tell you that you've waited 3 years too long to step up and do something. For God's sake don't stop now until they are safe. You can't make your friend protect her kids but that doesn't release the burden of protecting them it only makes it that much more important. Kisses, LA   
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What an ass!!! You did the right thing, hope she leaves him and stays away. If she stays it won't be long before the kids get beat too, and the cycle will continue on......
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Yes!!!!!!! I am so proud of you!!!! I have never met you but I couldn't be prouder. You did the right thing.
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The next step is bringing child protective services on board. If she is not able to protect herself she will not be able to protect her kids.
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I just found your profile and blog. In my opinion, you did the right thing. If he is abusing his wife in front of his children. Abusing the children won't be far behind. Creating another generation of abusers and victims because that is the way they were raised and think it is normal behavior. G
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Only thing I can say here....RIGHT ON!!! You did the right thing in my opinion. You most definitely show what "true friendship" means. There is no telling what the outcome will be. Either she will open her eyes and seek help from a batter women organization that will help her and her kids, or she will just keep taking the abuse. Either way, your conscience is clean because you took that initiative to try and help your friend, and most of all those children. If more people were like you, when experiencing something like this and taking the bull by the horn, it can even possibly put a stop to the pain that is experienced by all that are involved; furthermore, could even be what can save a person(s) life.
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Gottaring replies...."But here is my friend, with all the help she could possibly need and she does NOTHING. As cold as this may sound, my resources are better spent on someone who really wants the help." Whilst I agree that you did the right thing for the children involved I am going to speak from the point of the abused here. Something which I can speak of with authority as I was the abused partner in a marriage for almost 30 years. She is incapable of doing anything because apart from the physical abuse she will also have suffered mental abuse. There are many ways that this man has used to control her...and control her he does as sure as if she were a puppet on a string. She has lost all self esteem....she cannot make even the smallest decision for herself....she feels utterly worthless because he has told her that is what she is. She fears him BUT she fears life without him because he has made her believe that no one else would want her or even like her. She is convinced that she is the one in the wrong here....that he beats her because of something she has done wrong. Please be there for her...she needs you and she needs counselling. I hope that one day something will snap inside her and she will be able to walk away. Forgive me for taking over your blog. ~~Anais Nin~~
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i am a million miles away but i am ready to go off my nut and do something regrettable. violence toward either spouse must go away. be it men on women or women on men. you are supposed to love that person not have a built in pain sponge for whatever failure in your own life makes you be casually cruel. find a hole crawl in and make the world a better place.
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You did the right thing, had someone just ONCE called the cops on my parents, my life would have been the better for it.
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Without a doubt, you did the right thing. Have no regrets for it. As for your friend, if not now, then there will come a time in the future when she understands you did the right thing, and you are truly her best friend. In fact, maybe she will realize the fact she is there, to speak with you, in the future, is ONLY because of you!
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Like many others, I have to agree that you did the right thing. I only hope that she sees it that way as well. Pray that she leaves him for good, and keeps you as a friend. I would fear for her otherwise. Then again, you could just let the hubby go kick his ass some dark night. Sometimes, that's the only way to get through to a douchebag like that. Red lipstick and "fuck me" shoes. What more could you want?  
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I wish my mom had of had a friend like you.
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Good for you! There is no reasoning with abusers...no point either. They need to be dealt with and swiftly by the law. The kids need to be protected above all else. This bullshit is far too rampant in our society. You did right...you are a good person for it G. I am proud to know you and your resolve. I'd stand beside you anytime!!
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It's such a cowardly act when a man beats a woman for whatever reasons.
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I agree with davroswell. You did the right thing. Although depending on the rules down your way she might not even have to press charges if they find enough evidence. I know in minnesota the state can choose to press charges without the victims consent. Although they wouldn't be able to force her to speak against him. Abusers really piss me off to no end. But it is still up to her to leave him. Which for her sake, and the sake of the kids you mentioned I hope she does before he kills her.
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10/12/2012 8:37 am |
Did you do the right thing? Absolutely yes! First, you were not acting as a nosy body, sticking your nose in other people's business. You had first-hand and long-term knowledge of an ongoing, dangerous situation. People all to often forget about or simply ignore the whole concept of civic duty. Those little children are innocent victims in all of this, bound to have screwed up personalities/relationships as a result because of BOTH of them. I think you were spot on in throwing in the towel on her too as the enabling, complacent accomplice.
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I wish.. When it was my time.. My family and friends stood up for me in my darkest days. You're a great friend, period. "To Be Consumed" Blog : I want to be your drug of painful withdrawals.
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You did the right ting. Good for you! I am sure secretly she hoped you would do something about it, and the way you put it in the letter, it is clear she did not put you up to it. I really hope something good comes of this. Sometimes people don't know how to live if they are not victims... Something interesting in my life: A surprise on my naked body this morning Come visit my blog to know what I get up to from time to time: [blog 4jasmine2]
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Got on you. But she is the one that has too press charges. Hope all works out well. I he must have grew up on the wrong side of the tracks. Even one knows you never hit a woman. This is not meant to offend any one in any way.     
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10/12/2012 6:28 am |
That is such a sad situation. You did the best you could and it's up to her now. I've never heard of an ex-abuser and it will continue if she stays. The kids will soon be a target. Prayers for you and her. You should have let hubby pummel him.
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What an ASS!!!!!!!!! NO, not talking about your HNW pic this week! LOL!  Idiots like him do not deserve to see the light of day!!! Set up a couple of used targets in the yard just to remind him of your sharpshooting skills! JUst in case he drives by at some point!  take care! xo
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Good for you in calling the cops. I detest people like this. They are punks who think they can control a woman through fear. They claim it's done out of love, but it isn't. I also don't understand why any woman would stay with a man who hits her even once. If he hits you, he doesn't love you, so get the fuck out! I hope he goes to jail for many years and gets ass- while he's there. (I'm sorry, was that too harsh? No? Didn't think so.) [post 3097853] Come join the half-nekkid fun! Check out HNW Bloggers.  
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You did the right thing. She would have never done it herself. Now maybe she'll see how many resources are out there to help her. But none more valuable than a friend like you... 
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