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Making the First Move  

kcclaire0923 68F  
407 posts
11/30/2015 3:26 pm
Making the First Move

I am curious about something. How many of you wait for the other person of the opposite sex to initiate the first move or contact? I wonder if it is my age group or maybe just me but I can't or won't send the initial e-mail or IM request to chat if I see someone's profile I might be interested in. I can honestly say that I have sent a note to those who write an exceptional profile and I will compliment them on that. But I always seem to hesitate asking if they would like to chat or get acquainted by e-mail on our personal addresses. I think maybe I am old fashioned that way, or just plain shy, I don't know. I do know that I am not an aggressive personality at all; but certainly do respond ASAP to those who make the first contact. Even if it is to say "no thank you."

Men, how comfortable are you sending a message asking if we would like to get to know each other and then wait/hope for a response- positive or negative? Ladies, do you do this often? I may be referring to ladies over age 50, but am curious about every age group. Meeting people of the opposite sex is difficult at best; but especially if you are not into the bar scene, which i am not. I have met and dated many from this site in a four year period, but they have all made the first contact. I liked it better in the times where a guy came up to a girl when he saw her and asked for her phone number to call her for a date. Those days are long gone - mostly because of the kind of world we live in now I would say.

Thoughts? Comments? Opinions?

{=} {=} KCClaire0923

rm_Holdmyassplz 45F
44 posts
11/30/2015 3:43 pm

 Oh please don't feel like that especially on this site.... If you see someone you want to say hello to do it!

YOLO = you only live once

Now keep in mind who rude some of these men approach you so I always say hey there I'm.... and I just wanted to say hello if they respond good if they don't oh well because there are 20 others responding...

With this site I have just figured I am going to make it what I want.... You need to as well enjoy yourself


kcclaire0923 replies on 11/30/2015 3:57 pm:
I like your style....YOLO is a great way to look at it! Thanks for the response!

Discreet999 43M  
120 posts
11/30/2015 3:52 pm

 I agree with holdmyassplz... just do it. Life's too short to be waiting on someone's action for something you want.


Great_eight 58M
1561 posts
11/30/2015 4:01 pm

 I never hesitate to make the first contact with a woman. I don't miss asking a woman for her phone number, I enjoy the way that like minded people can meet up by viewing profiles on line.


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
11/30/2015 4:27 pm

 I got a correspondence from a gal in my area. She left her number ,I text her and every reply back from her was one or two words and that just didn't work for me.I got the distinct feeling I would be doing all the talking on our first meet or date.it's nice when a woman takes the initiative to contact someone.when you get 10 or 12 rejections a day.
It's very encouraging but very, very ,very ,very rare.
Using more than all the road!


Acuriouscat48 60M

11/30/2015 4:45 pm

 I would definitely not have a issue with the woman making the first move. I am sometimes to hesitant.


kcclaire0923 68F  
822 posts
12/9/2015 10:44 am

 Thank you WilWil for the nice compliments. It is difficult for me since I am old fashioned in my thinking. Too bad there is distance between Texas and California....Also it was nice chatting with you in the BW room this morning. Anyway, I will wish you happy holidays and hope your week is going well!


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