49 posts 9/26/2012 6:27 pm
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10 Reasons NOT to swing....
I already posted the 10 Reasons to Swing....So it's only fair I give you the flipside too.
The lifestyle is not a lifestyle for everyone. Swinging can ruin marriages and break friendships. There are right and wrong reasons for swinging. If your marriage is strong & crack free, swinging will strengthen it, But on the flip side, if you have small fissures in your marriage, Swinging will make them HUGE. If you are getting into the lifestyle for any of the following reasons, DON’T, Its NOT for you….
1. If you are currently infected with HIV, Aids, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, crabs or any other form of a sexually transmitted disease you should not attempt to become a swinger. Swinger groups are very tight knit and eventually someone will ask you if you are STD free. Drug & Disease free is the norm in the lifestyle.
2. You are looking to cheat on a partner, spouse or significant other. If you are married and anyone in the swinging community finds out that you are using swinging to cheat you could be black balled from all parties and events. Refer to my previous blog about the differences in swinging vs cheating.
3. You are trying to get back at a partner, spouse or significant other for cheating on you. What happens if you decide to forgive this person and then have to explain your own behavior. What if you were wrong about the whole thing to begin with? Swingers don't like to be used any more than anyone else and playing with another couple for the sake of revenge is j using them.
4. You want to convince your wife to do another woman. This has become such a common occurrence that many swinger's groups and parties prohibit men without partners. No matter what you say or do if your wife does not want to have a sexual encounter with another woman or couple, swinging with other people is not going to convince her. Almost every single experienced swinger can tell you stories about people they've met trying to do just this. It never works and it never will. Rent some porn, buy some toys, fantasize. Most bi women in the lifestyle are Bi because they LIKE being with another woman…not to turn someone on, but because it turns them on.
5. Everyone gets tired of their partner from time to time. This is not a valid reason for swinging. Swinging is meant to enhance marriages not tear them further apart. If you are both tired of your sex life and are open to having sex with others then by all means give it a try but do your homework first. No swinger wants to get down and dirty with a couple who are going to freak out halfway through and realize they made a mistake. And believe me, it happens….
6. You are trying to "keep" your partner. Swinging will not make your partner stay faithful to you. If you are agreeing to swinging because you think you'll be able to keep your eye on your man/woman and make them happy at the same time, think again. This usually ends in disaster with one or both people in the relationship jealous and resentful. Besides if he or she is determined to cheat on you they are going to find another way to do it without you there.
7. You think your partner is fat, old, ugly, etc. It doesn't matter. That's just hurtful and won't get you anywhere in swinger circles. Get counseling and get over it or get out of it.
8. You are curious about seeing other people have sex. Rent a porn movie. While most swingers enjoy<b> voyeurism </font></b>many don't want to hook up with another couple just so they can satisfy some lame curiosity.
9. You just want to please your partner. Never go along with swinging just because someone else wants you to. Swinging is a personal decision that has to be made by every individual, individually. Just as a couple needs to decide to swing together, every person has to decide for themselves if swinging is right for them.
10. You think it's an easy way to get laid. Just because swingers like to have sex with other people doesn't mean they are having sex with everyone they come across. In fact swingers tend to have dating rituals they go through to determine if another person or couple is right for them. They usually have certain criteria you must meet and a pre-planned way of avoiding you if you don't hit the bull's eye. |
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51 posts 9/26/2012 8:46 pm |
Thank you very much for the wonderful compliment. Keep following along for more blog entries. 
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51 posts 9/26/2012 8:50 pm |
That is a good point.....thank you for sharing. Please keep following my blog for more info, ideas, & FUN stuff.
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425 posts 9/26/2012 11:48 pm |
Great comments! I could not agree more. So many people get into the lifestyle for all the wrong reasons and wonder why they end up divorced.
"Well-behaved women rarely make history" ~Laurel Thatcher Ulrich
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51 posts 9/27/2012 10:31 am |
Quoting ybnormaldiva:
Great comments! I could not agree more. So many people get into the lifestyle for all the wrong reasons and wonder why they end up divorced.
So very true, & so very sad. If you have problems already, WHY would you think having sex with others will FIX that?
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