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Do you ever meet anyone here?
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Do you ever meet anyone here? I get asked this question fairly often. The answer is, well, yes, in fact, I do. Sometimes there is just not enough chemistry, just as it is on any other dating site, which is the most common, because chemistry isn't something you can judge until you meet. Sometimes I meet someone, it's worth it to see if they are sexually compatible...and...for whatever reason, I don't want to see them again, or only a couple of times, which is the second most common thing that happens. It may have to do with sexual compatibility, but most likely, it's just chemistry. They were fun for one or two go arounds, but I'm not into them enough to do it again--or they aren't into me enough, which sometimes happens. Occasionally when it's them not into me, they will try coming back much later for more, but I'm not going to fall for that claptrap. If they aren't into me enough to make it a regular thing, I'm not fucking them in a moment of their desperation. I have some lifelong friends from this site I've known over a decade. One of them was the very first person I ever got to know in San Diego. This is the third most common thing that happens to me. Some of them I didn't meet for sex, but met because they were bloggers and we had something in common and wanted to be friends. Sometimes I meet someone we would be happy to have sex with many times, but for whatever reason we don't have the sex & mental/emotional combo that would make either of us consider it more than that. This is actually both fairly elusive and reasonably desirable, just as I'm sure it is to a lot of people. Then, on VERY rare occasions I find someone who may be even more than that...which is the most desirable thing of all. I've had better luck with that on other sites, but I don't rule it out on this one. If anything, it's more likely because the culture is to be very open and honest about the sex part, meaning when everything else falls into place, it's more likely that everything will, whereas the sex part can blow it when people haven't discussed it ahead of time. By the way, if you haven't figured it out, ALL dating sites are about sex. In that regard, this one just tends to be more straight-forward than most. Men on here commonly state in their profiles that they are here because while they are seeking a relationship, they want to avoid having relationships with women for whom sex just isn't a very high priority. For the women here, I can say a good number of them are here for reasons 3 or 4. It's not that we don't care about other things. It's just that we DO care about sex, we're honest about it, and we are bold enough to have confidence to ask for what we want. You know what the funny part is? There are actually men on this site that freak out when you start talking about sex after getting to know them. You want more women to be open and ask for what they want? Hell, do you want women to just be more interested in sex, in general? Start acting as if talking about it is a good thing, no matter what site you are using, because your hangups are showing, and you are giving us just one more reason to be fed up with men's bullshit.   MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=} |
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Your experience is sooooo much like mine. I have expressed the exact same thoughts in my blogs or elsewhere when asked that question. I too am on othet sites, but have been most successful meeting men from here. Somehow the fact that the desire for sex is out in the open, but understood that it is not necessarily a given, is helpful.
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6/24/2017 3:05 pm |
well guess I must be doing something wrong if others have met one another just for idol chat meetings but hey.... at lest now I know there is a chance in a way. welcome to my chats and spats
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Meeting is not an issue . The guy showing up seems to be one too . Some are too good to be true which is always the case. You wonder are talking to a robot or a guy. I have met some and Lord u wonder why u even wasted your time . Truth will always come out or u meet someone and all u talked about goes out of the window .
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I've been open to meeting people for the entire time I've been on this site, but it's never happened. - Most simply, I've always been open to meeting people as non-sex friends, or just "what are they like in person?" meetings. - Since I've been with my wife, we have occasionally considered the possibility of a threesome with another woman (unlikely thought that is), and for people who might join us for voyeurism and exhibitionism (but not swapping) play. - When I was with my evil ex-girlfriend, I briefly looked for a third for a threesome (then discovered that her proposal of that idea was a loyalty test, not a sincere proposal). - When I've been unattached (as well as when I had resolved to escape from my evil ex-girlfriend), my primary goal has been a relationship that included good sex (and of course was good in other respects, with secondary goals of finding a repeat sex partner, and possibly a hook-up. - When I was with my first wife, I had a pass to play when she was away for more than a couple of weeks at a time, and looked for suitable partners for that. The closest I came to meeting someone from here were two women during the time I was preparing to escape the evil ex. One was a really nice woman I met through the blogs. We made plans to meet, but the timing worked out for her to meet a different guy before she met me -- and he turned out to be The One. We remained friends, and I got acquainted with the lucky guy too; when Local Adult Companion kicked her off for jerk-shaming, he explained what had happened, and he also later answered a simple business question for related to his line of work. The other almost-met woman was someone who seemed to have relationship potential as well as sex-friend potential, but she decided that because I planned to move away as part of escaping the evil ex that she didn't want to start anything temporary with me. I have met people from other sites. The most productive in that respect have been the big classified ad site and the one that rhymes with "stupid"; I also had a couple of meetings from the one named for marine vertebrates. I met a bunch of people from a since-closed bulletin board on the stupid-rhyming site at a group gathering, just on "what are they like in person?" terms, and a number of relationship-potential dates (none of which led to hook-ups or second dates). When my wife and first met, we both had profiles there, and the site's compatibility test rated us a 99% match. I also made a long-term net friend there, and eventually met her in person after both she and I had married other people; we're still friends. The classifieds site was the source of the most varied meetings. Some were friend-dates (or maybe "what are they like in person?" meetings), some with remote sex-friend potential. Some were meant as sex dates, but the attraction was absent. One was a woman who wanted me to take racy photos of her that she could send to her boyfriend. And one was a sex date that turned out as a very good one-time thing. (She declined a follow-up because she didn't want her girlfriend to find out.) One of the marine vertebrate site meetings was meant as a sex date, and the sexual tension was thick, but she had second thoughts and declined when the time came to head to a private location or call it off. The other was strictly a relationship-potential date, and it went well, but subsequent meetings ended up more as friend-dates, and we remained friends for a while before losing contact.
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90% of my meets from here have been fellow bloggers for friendship. Your second most common scenario, the loss-of-interest/chemistry thing is my most common one when it comes to meeting for sex. Interestingly, the reasons are usually from opposite ends of the spectrum, either they can't get it up enough to make sex satisfying and the connection isn't satisfying on anything more than an interesting dinner date level... Or the entire point of meeting is for sex and the connection isn't satisfying on anything more than a fuck-level. I'd kind of like to have both.
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They were fun for one or two go arounds, but I'm not into them enough to do it again. Is that what's been going on? lol Seems like that is what has been happening to me, but I sure wish they would just say so. I'm okay with it if that's what it is. Thoughts from the Garden...
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I have met up with plenty of men on this site. I've met up with women on this site. Some have been for just sex and then kind of done. Some have been for friendship. Some have been for a relationship. I have been lucky in that when I wanted one thing, I have found it. This site has been the best for me to do that. But, I had some success on the other ones. kk The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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Well, as you know, I have been on the "stupid" site, too. That's the one that I find rather tepid around here. It's interesting that the quality of the dating pools on different sites varies so much geographically. I would not have guessed that. The guy who smelled like wrinkley grandmas came off the "marine vertebrate" site (can't you come up with a shorter euphemism?). That site really isn't that exciting to me. The only people I was fairly interested in just never had any follow through. Shorter euphemism? I can't think of one that wouldn't be even more obscure. "Osteoicthys"? Most people would look at that and think a cat had just walked across my keyboard. As for the site, the pickings around here were pretty poor. Most of the women's profiles made the women look like they were bitter about a long series of unsatisfactory relationships. OK, maybe the reason they were on the market was that they got out of relationships with guys they should have dumped much sooner than they did. But when writing a profile, the emphasis should be on the idea that they want to find a great relationship, not that they still resented their ex for leaving them nine years earlier. However, as I mentioned, I encountered two exceptions there. The woman from the sex date with the last-minute second thoughts had a very positive profile, and although it started out like it was going to be a sex date, the conversation made it seem like she would have had good friend potential, maybe even relationship potential, if it hadn't started out as a "Let's get acquainted before we get naked" conversation. Starting on that basis probably short-circuited the possibility of non-sex friends or relationship explorations. The other woman from that site was in the Los Angeles area, around the time I was in the process of planning my escape from the evil ex-girlfriend. If I hadn't been in the process of planning a thousand-mile move, we might have ended up continuing relationship-exploration dating for a while, though I don't think she and I had enough in common to have continued that for too long. Her profile was also very positive. Maybe she was an example of dating pools on different sites varying by geography.
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I have plenty of hang ups about sex. Part of the reason I stay on this site is I can blog and try to work some of it out. Cheap therapy.
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7/19/2017 11:50 pm |
super young a? well I'm honored to hear that welcome to my chats and spats
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