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How to Get Laid at a Sex Club..a Guide for Guys
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How to Get Laid at a Sex Club..a Guide for Guys How to get into bed with the person of your choice within a Swing Club environment has always been a hot topic question in any “Swinging 101” seminar or my own “Swinging and the Single Guy” workshop. The answer varies of course from one woman to another, but in my years of practice and observation, I can put in some very researched two cents. This is going to be Woman to single Man, as that is my own personal experience. Once a woman shows up at a club, either by herself or with her partner, she needs a few moments, get her bearings, do not invade her space right away, allow her to get a drink, use the ladies room, observe the current crop of players and maybe get her grove on a bit. I personally will not play with anyone who does not make contact with me, I need an introduction and a name. That being said, find an opportune moment to make eye contact and….SMILE. Yes, smile, not a smarmy, creepy, stalker smile, but a genuine, you-are-happy-to-be-there-smile. A smile of power and confidence. If she smiles back…great! First contact has occurred. When you see her next, try to “run” into her at the bar or in a quieter area, introduce yourself, shake her hand and give a compliment, nothing overt, like, “wow-great tits”, but something like, “You are a wonderful dancer”, or “you have beautiful eyes” is nice and non threatening. Even better protocol, if she is with a partner, introduce yourself to him, and let him know he has a captivating partner. Then follow their lead as the situation calls…if you notice she was dancing, ask to join her on the dance floor, etc. Since we are all at a sex club for the same reason, to engage in fun adventurous sex, I find the direct approach works best after initial contact resulting in MUTUAL attraction. To begin, offer to please her first. It takes the pressure off her and puts the onus on you for further contact. By direct, usually, for most women and couples, saying, “You’re hot, i’d like to fuck you” is a little too direct, and can be seen as threatening (though, done right with say, me, may get you laid). Saying to the couple, something along the lines of “ I find you very exciting, i would like to tease you with my tongue and see what happens” seems more fun…remember, go for the fun angle, not the desperate-for-sex angle. As well, it is always important to go into these propositions with confidence, and the ability to smile and bow out with grace if she refuses. She may refuse you as a test, or she just may not be ready, those whom I have refused usually fared better when they left with cheer and maintained some eye contact and smiles…Many have gotten a second chance with that attitude and confidence. The transition from vertical to horizontal can be complex or easy, easy comes with confidence and a knowledge of what YOU bring to the table. What pleasure can you offer. Let the couple know, and do not be graspy or act in desperation. Without a shadow of a doubt, I can tell you who does NOT make it to the bed with me, the men who try touch me without me knowing, they will run their hands up or down my body while I am engaged with someone else as if this is ok…these men being sneaky and grubby, never get permission or invitation after that. Asking the pointed question, “do you mind if I touch…” “Would you enjoy my touch here…” “ I would love to watch, would you like that..” Is always a good beginning as well. Bottom line…if you exude confidence, approach directly and with grace and openness, be genuine and sincere and your chances of having a banging time are pretty high. |
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Very informative post for single men like me who would love to try a sex club, but what if you are somewhat of an introverted wallflower? I love sex, and exploring, but pretty much have always relied on women to make the first move. Once the clothes are off, and I am engaged... I'm not the wallflower type at all.  Thoughts from the Garden...
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