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She Thanked me for the Adult Conversation  

TopTwentyPercent 60M
124 posts
12/9/2017 12:20 am
She Thanked me for the Adult Conversation

It was, in my world, a bad night.

First of all, Curvy Girl is out of town.

Second, English Girl canceled on me. We were going to go dancing and then who knows what else, but she said that she was not feeling well and had a stressful day. I tried to be supportive, but it is Friday night. That is a sacred evening to me.

So I struck a deal with the "Banker". She had already been drinking so I offered to drive to her place and we could take in a movie together. When I go there, there was an immediate sense of play and we crawled into bed to watch said movie while not paying a lot of attention to it.

For more on the Banker read A Night with the Banker
Monday Lunch with a Banker
Life of Surprises
My Fairy tale Sunday

For the record the movie was "Deadpool". Something she chose, but I had never seen. When it comes to movies, I am an illiterate.

We began to play pretty hard and I was really enjoying touching her. I was on my way to giving her a good solid fucking, but she began to zig. I even told her I was going to be in charge and there would be no starting and stopping. She would be fucked and that was it.

Well, you can't fuck someone that doesn't want to be fucked.

She was not feeling it. She no longer does ever and within moments of her stoppage, I was no longer feeling it either.

This is my blog so I am going to give my side of the story only. She wants to control the relationship, the pace of the sex and even what she wants to do as my friend. We became increasingly sexually incompatible to the point where I couldn't even get a fucking hard-on tonight.

She wants to be my friend, but when she confided that she had a very difficult last couple of weeks and then wouldn't tell me detail one about it, I told her that even our friendship is in jeopardy.

To be my friend one of two things needs to happen. One, she spreads her legs which naturally leads to pillow talk and an intimate friendship or two, she opens up about what is going on in her life that has her distressed so I can give her what little wisdom I may be able to dispense.

She refused both.

Her idea of a good friend is someone that will accompany her dancing or any number of other activities that include the most shallow of conversation.

That is not enough for me. That is a hollow friendship.

From naked in her bed to fully dressed, I headed home before midnight.

But, she thanked me for the adult conversation.
It is all about attitude, approach and presentation! What is your AAP?
roadmaster306 60M
3 posts
12/9/2017 2:20 am

 People like that aren't worth your time


TopTwentyPercent replies on 12/9/2017 10:16 am:
She is a very special person and worth my time....but I have to prioritize my time and that is how she will lose out. She has been a priority tonight she was third in line possibly more had anyone else been available.

Thanks for looking in...I appreciate the visit.

TB5758 65M/67F
577 posts
12/9/2017 3:08 am

 Was it necessary to identify the people you are associated with? Just wondering? You could have made the same point without the names. Just like to understand the reasoning?


TopTwentyPercent replies on 12/9/2017 10:21 am:
I do "identify" the people I am talking about for context. You can go back in my blog and read about my adventures with "the banker". If she were an Local Adult Companion member and she is not, it might be slightly more awkward, but nobody knows who she actually is. Same goes with the others save for maybe "Curvy Girl". I believe context is everything and to relay the stories and lessons I learn, there has to be some kind of identifier.

Thank you for your question and comment. Good to have your visit.

TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
12/9/2017 5:28 am

 Seems like she isn't interested in having you as a friend in the same way you define friendship. She doesn't trust you enough to let you into the less-happy parts of her life. This sounds like a good time to either accept her boundaries or just move on.


TopTwentyPercent replies on 12/9/2017 10:26 am:
Well first of all, thank you for commenting.

First of all, she has to accept my ultimatum too. Either open up or accept my diminished role as her friend. She is clearly going through a lot. She is a powerful, strong yet at times very vulnerable woman. When she has her down moments she does not allow herself to be open up to anyone.

"I am like a dude" she told me once.

She is working on herself and will either drift far away from me or she will find it and come back some time.

Regardless, I am here and will gladly accept her back if I can truly be her friend.

Again, thank you for your thoughts!

classicalrebel4 68M
1755 posts
12/9/2017 6:25 am

 Are you the kind of friend to her that you want her to be? There are two sides to this story and without really knowing either one of you I will withhold commenting.
Please don't let me be misunderstood.


TopTwentyPercent replies on 12/10/2017 5:33 pm:
I have tried to reach a place in our friendship that she does not or strive to go. She tells me that right up front. I am not going to spend a lot of time criticizing her because she is too valuable a person and respectable friend to be all sour about what has happened. It may not give much insight, but maybe you could go back and read other posts about her and see if you can get an inkling about how I felt about her. I won't be the kind to say I was right and she was wrong.

Thank you for your thoughts.

pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
12/9/2017 10:38 am

 I appears without knowing either of you that neither of you is willing to accept the boundaries that each has presented to the other. Time's a wasting for both of you. End it and move forward.
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Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
12/9/2017 7:49 pm

 Okay so you dump her. As for weekends.... they are for fucking. If you're seeing any of these women on the weekends, and they don't fuck first, [if at all] you're wasting your weekend, and should dump them , too.


TopTwentyPercent replies on 12/10/2017 5:37 pm:
You know...for once I think we agree to some extent. Where we disagree, though is that I like to be friends with those I fuck. In addition, I don't just fuck on weekends.

Thank you for your interest in this post.

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
12/9/2017 7:55 pm

 so I offered to drive to her place and we could take in a movie together. .... "Take in a movie"? What are you , gay?! She saw right through your shy approach and used it to her benefit. She had no intention of fucking.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
12/9/2017 8:01 pm

 She wants to be my friend, ....Then you tell her "Bye-bye". She's looking for a token gay guy she can talk to about other men who make her hot.

To be my friend one of two things needs to happen. .... No, only "One thing". One, she spreads her legs which naturally leads to pillow talk and an intimate friendship


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
12/10/2017 6:33 pm

 TopTwentyPercent replies on 12/10/2017 5:37 pm:
You know...for once I think we agree to some extent. Where we disagree, though is that I like to be friends with those I fuck. In addition, I don't just fuck on weekends.

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Where we disagree, though is that I like to be friends with those I fuck. .....We don't have a disagreement on that point. However, if they stop seeing you for sex, then you dump them. Why? Because some women think she'll hook him in, once, or twice, and then never mingle with his junk again. Essentially , that woman has just "Sacrificed" some pussy , to gain a "Friendzone" sucker.

In addition, I don't just fuck on weekends. .... Good, but for sure, your weekends are for women who you know for sure, will have sex with you.


TopTwentyPercent 60M
317 posts
12/11/2017 1:22 pm
    Quoting Heathen_G:
    TopTwentyPercent replies on 12/10/2017 5:37 pm:
    You know...for once I think we agree to some extent. Where we disagree, though is that I like to be friends with those I fuck. In addition, I don't just fuck on weekends.

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    Where we disagree, though is that I like to be friends with those I fuck. .....We don't have a disagreement on that point. However, if they stop seeing you for sex, then you dump them. Why? Because some women think she'll hook him in, once, or twice, and then never mingle with his junk again. Essentially , that woman has just "Sacrificed" some pussy , to gain a "Friendzone" sucker.

    In addition, I don't just fuck on weekends. .... Good, but for sure, your weekends are for women who you know for sure, will have sex with you.
I am starting to see some common ground, but the margins are slim.

Thanks for your comments.
It is all about attitude, approach and presentation! What is your AAP?


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