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Negative Profiles
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Negative Profiles So, we’ll start this off with a rhetorical question ... Why?? So as not to come off as sounding hypocritical, we do understand the frustrations that come from some of the interactions here. Believe us ... we do! We also understand the need and desire to vent. In fact, it is not lost on us that we are venting right now! Lol. What we don’t quite understand is just how negative some of the profiles, that we have read, have become. In all honesty, the first impression many of us get of the other members here is their profile picture. It admittedly is what draws us to view the profile in the first place. But, the second impression comes from the profile introduction. And while the profile photo may be what brought us to a given profile, it is the introduction that will keep us there ... or ... cause us to move on. When we see a bunch of negative or rude comments in profiles, our first thought is ... is this how the woman will behave if we’re lucky enough to get her attention and talk to her? And most of the time, it’s enough to simply make us move on to the next profile. We also don’t understand the derogatory comments we see about a group of people who don’t match one’s interests. Not into older people? That’s fine. But are the references to retirement homes necessary? Not into younger people? Also fine. But, how does it help to make rude comments about their inexperience? We were all young and inexperienced at some point. And, hopefully, we all get to experience the wisdom that comes with getting older. Then there’s the list of dont’s. Don’t do this. Don’t say that. Don’t be this. Goodness! By the time we get through all of the list of things we shouldn’t be, it is lost on us whether or not we, in fact, would be compatible! So, we often just figure we’re not, and move on. Plus, we really aren’t interested in playing detective, piecing all the clues together, to figure it out. Lol. And don’t even get us started on the word, “block.” We could write an entire blog post on this word alone! Oh, how we dislike seeing that in a profile. We understand that there are perfectly acceptable times and reasons to block people from contacting you on here. There are some really rude people who get very bold, and very nasty, through the anonymity of the internet. It’s a shame, and we don’t wish it on anyone. But, why sound so threatening in your profile introduction, when you could be enticing the right kind of people to reach out to you? Our favorite (note the sarcasm) “block” statement reads something similar to the following: “If it is clear you haven’t read my entire profile and you contact me, you will be BLOCKED.” Let’s examine this statement a little more, shall we? So the message is meant to warn people who have not “read” the profile, that by not reading the profile, they will be blocked. Weeeeee ... really don’t think your message is going to reach your target audience. Haha! We liken the whole thing to a piece of candy that looks so yummy on the outside, but when you take a bite to explore a little deeper, you discover that it is actually sour on the inside. We are attracted to those sweet-tasting candies, that are so delicious we just have to finish them (her). There’s a nice metaphor for you, today.  So, we’re not writing to tell people how they should behave, or what they should do. Be yourself. That’s the most important thing ... that you are the authentic version of you. The only thing we can convey is how a negative profile makes us react versus a friendly, positive one. We are drawn to friendly people. Even if there is there is no sexual connection, we absolutely adore and appreciate friendly people! Looking forward to connecting with some more of you friendly ladies out there! And best of luck to all of you! |
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Negative profiles and pictures of unsmiling faces...both pet peeves of mine.
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People get more focused on what they don't want than what they do want. It's more effective IMO to write your profile to cater to the people you do want, but I too understand the frustration. Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers
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Excellent post.
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