Male vs female bloggers..what a minefield
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Posted:Sep 8, 2013 9:04 pm
Last Updated:Nov 27, 2019 8:15 pm
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A young 29 year old lady posted a blog about young male bloggers What the blog world needs more of. Apart from the obvious replys comments this blog recieved, it got me thinking about this site, the blogs and the people here in general. Bear with me, but this is my opinion only and is only based on my very very limited observations, but I don't think I too far in left field
So, aside from the obvious way this site works, the more hits, the higher the count, and yes, the 45 million to one ratio of men to women here, it would initially seem obvious why women blogs hit the top, but I truly think its more than just that.
Why age 40+ womens blogs outnumber all blogs in general.
My unscientific observation of these blogs tend to be 'life' trackers of their lives, usually at this age, full of stuff not easily worked through...marriage break-ups, emotional turmoil, life turmoil of jobs, and husbands and they needing somewhere to mark their words. Also, second marriages, second/third/fourth relationships, an outlet for emotional poems and stories, with MANY stating clearly they are here only to write, not to really communicated directly with anyone. I have lost count how many pinned top entries state this.
About 1/2 these blogs bear their lives completely to strangers, and if I were anyone in their lives, likely horrified to think some of the details shared on this site, are actually shared! I have seen women sharing their unfortunate late in life pregnacy still born experiences, their detailed turmoil of family and friends in life crisis etc. I tend to agree with many who feel this site (clearly a sex site) may not be the best place to share this stuff. Frankly many would never use eHarmony to do this(really, who is going to date someone who just told you they just had the worst day of their life etc...)
I do get from this crowd they have already removed themselves from any real meeting with any men/women the say they may want to meet, and use this as their personal writing site, regardless of the purpose of the site. I say this crowd of over 40+ ladies..please get help! Really, if your life is this bad..you truly need help in the real world. This includes the married types complaining about lifeless husbands, listless , annoying extended family...you name it, but most has no relation to the name of this site. I don't care if you cheat (fuck someone other than your husband) but just tell me about how amazing that sex was, not how your heads all fucked up because you did it.
Lastly, a lot of these post in this 'category' spend an inordinate amount of time exposing or showing how ignorant men here are. yes, there are lots, but these ladies post every bit of communication and then belittle them. This is female bullying in my mind. Definitely, men, your worst behaviour is being exposed, but endless complaining and using this as justification as all men here are the same,,,,get a life please and get off of here...
The second half is much much more diverse and cannot be generalized, but I do find two subsets.
1. Emotional, everythings pink and roses, with endless poems and sunset pictures. Since their is never much of real revealed, have no real idea if these ladies are meeting and talking with people here, but definitely they are the glass half full crowd. Again, after about 10 pages of the same thing,,,,99% of men and I am sure over 50% of the women who read this eventually never come back as its all the same. Btw...this includes the 'give me a caption crowd..this is NOT instagram"
2. The blogs I truly love...real, communcative, revealing positive posts of their sexuality, their erotic stories, the occasional personal picture or video, and can really tell these ladies have their shit together..no baggage or they are dealing with it properly. These women accept men the way they are..all the imperfections, the ignorant to the powerful. They don't complain about these men, they deal with them. I am definitely attracted to the ladies in this group. I met one recently (yes, another married woman) and can tell you ..wow, what a woman. I knew exactly where she was in life, she was in control of it, and knew exactly what she was doing. Her blogs and intelligence is what attracted me, and yes, the fucking was amazing! Her life was far from perfect, but she wasn't letting it drag her down and she was gettin on with it.
In general, though, almost all these blogs are usually very very well written, full of thought, truths and heartfelt outbursts, with some actually posting and talking about the acts of sex, and my opinion, likely all highly eductated or at least well read. I also find some I really relate too, and recognize similar stuff in the women I know in real life.
Men aged 40+..hard to generalize really in these blogs, I don't read many of them to me they are the following
1. The outrageous number of married men here mean most are just here to find a outlet for some masterbation because they can't relate to the woman in their house/home/life. This tires most of the 40+ women and repulse any of the younger 35 crowd of women...and I get that..understand that. These men could be well read and well intentioned but different than the women, these men literally see the words sex site and expect exactly what it says. They then get mad some faceless woman won't participate in their game and get angry upset and say as much. Aggressiveness, not assertiveness is this group and really never write much execept to 'fuck around' and play the site and the games it generates. This is not a compliment and many should just go.
2. The thoughtful, real men who are more like the group no.2 of the women. These men are well read, usually do have some emotional stuff to open up with, can be funny witty, and when engaged in converstaion in the chat rooms, don't pretend to be anybody but your neighbor who has a hardon!! Yes, these men will tend to be married and playing alone, maybe a little cowardly (pick me) about doing much about it, and mostly have normal lives.
3. The ignorant assholes..yes, there are lots here, yes, they make us men have bad names, but ladies, you have similar types too. These men don't mix words, are likely the cowards and bullies in real life and you need to be called out. Stop it! Behave like real men, own up to treating women with respect, not as an object to dump your cum in some 'hole'. I truly believe these men who post or chat like this, can barely talk to a real woman...and this is their passive aggressive outlet. They also don't take this site for anything but a place to find hookers with out paying...
Men younger than 35....
Okay...this was the subject of the lovely young lady. I have tried to read some of the mens' posts in this age group, and I must admit, my age is showing. I tire quickly of the bad grammar, the half-written texting style prose and the in ability to write more than 10 words in a post is disturbing. The rest can't be bothered as they are too busy leading busy lives and truly don't think they need to share every second and bubbling emotion they are having.
Young men though, in our society are having it tough. This is the first generation where women for the first time, outnumber men graduating both high school AND post-secondary. Many young men, including my , feel lost, feel there is no place for them and stuggle understanding what being a man is. I would wish, like the young lady, these young men would verbalize these feelings and what they are going through. Secondly, my told me (he is 1 he will rarely share anything with a girl because he is afraid of being ridculed, measured and thought not a man because of his feelings. Men are confused as to what being a man is...is it the metro-sexual toque wearing tight jean wearing hipster, who most young ladies feel comfortable around, have many female friends, but many don't really have a girlfriend, because these same females are actually getting sex from the 'physically masculine' men most women say they hate but can't wait to fuck! YOu know ladies...I see it in your blogs...the fireman, the policemand, the constuction worker, rippled chests, small brains and the bad attitudes as they get on their harley's. You won't marry them...but damn you will fuck them..lol.
Lastly in direct response to AliceBlond...young men will not write the way you wish..because they are not young women. They will not write what you want to hear, not that I don't think they should, but when I was 29, truly I was spending 100% of my time going out, having sex, meeting people, and dicking around with my buddies...not writing. Men have not changed much. And, btw...when you marry one, don't expect him to be anything but the guy you love...and if that means he doesn't write or communicate well, you knew when you married him.
So, last parting thought. Before you lambast me with the inevitable you don't know anything comments, take a long hard close look at your blog. What is it saying, what are you telling people of this site? are yoiu really using this as therapy or truly trying to communicate. Are you talking about interesting things, asking good questions, provoking good conversation...where do you fit in? Look in the mirror first, you will likely be surprised!! Take care all..and let the flames begin!
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soo...whats next...
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Posted:Aug 28, 2012 9:38 am
Last Updated:Mar 26, 2014 7:55 pm
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So, everyone is ranting about the book 50 shades of grey. I have not and likely will not read it, and from what I have heard, it’s badly written, poorly researched literature. What is has done though has brought the idea of some sort of kink to a more of a water cooler conversation amongst the ladies I have known, including my timid wife!Really!
Now, I have known for years she liked he idea of a forceful and aggressive approach every so often, but since some passing comments about the book recently, I thought I would try something with her and see if I could break her out of her shell a bit more. I have tried this with one playmate in the past, but never got the courage to try at home.
Well, after a few days of teasing, prodding and suggestive comments, AND I finally was able to chase both the teenagers out of the house this past Saturday night, I convinced her to 'playdate' with me. I have found recently she relaxes soo much more with the out of the house...
I arranged the date early in the day, and then went our normal Saturday routines, but making sure the were REALLY gone when it counted...teenagers are soo fickle! I could tell though as the day went by, there was some twinkle in her eyes I have not seen too much of in the last few years, and MY head was racing madly!
So, after an hour or so, after the left after supper, a couple glasses of wine just watching TV, I finally told her what I wanted to do, and she had no choice but to do it. I also warned though, that anytime during the evening. if what I suggested or wanted her to do, was too much..she had to tell me to stop..simple as that! SURPRISINGLY, she completely agreed!!
So, after that, I laid out what she needed to do. Take batch, shave her legs, her pussy and put make-up on. Then she had to put a specific skirt, top, stockings and heels on, and her black thong she rarely wears...SURPRISINGLY, she completely agreed, no questions..so up she got and did! I then told her to stay in our room with her blackberry so I could text more instructions!
While she was in her bath, I then laid out and hid a few things, handcuffs, scarves and a soft cover...finally, some music in the rec room and dimmed the lights...
She finally texted saying she was ready.so I gave her specific instructions...while I hid in the bathroom...told her to come downstairs, stand in the middle of the rec room, eyes closed, legs slightly wide and her hands at her side...and told her she could not peek...and I would come in after...SURPRISINLY..she did exactly that....I took a few moments when I came in the room quietly to just admire...wow...she was fucking hot tonight...!!! I truly wish she could dress like this to go public..noting exposed, nice cleavage..she truly does not understand how sexy and good looking she is...just not enough self esteem. Finally, I quietly got undress and came up behind her,,then whispered in her ear...to relax, enjoy and just let it all happen. To let herself to, not to be embarrassed about the sex she really wants. I gently then blindfolded her with a soft scarg...black.and then told her to follow my lead.....heheh..
Her voice took a tone I have not heard for years...soft, sexy, seductive..and agreeable! I caressed her whole body, under her clothes and told her she was a naughty girl and the police had to arrest her...so I told her she was under arrest and then gently pulled her arms back and slipped on the cuffs!! OMG...she moaned...totally unexpected..and started to reach for my cock…which I told her she could not have yet. I could tell this turned her on a whole lot...as I slipped my hand between her legs and found her soaking wet!!.
I lead her to against the far wall...and then pushed up against her and gave her a quick feel of my cock…pushing against her ass...and frisked her again. Now the moans and sighs were getting loud and she told me her pussy was dripping wet...again, something of talk she hadn't done in awhile. Eventually, I moved her away from the wall and slowly removed her short skirt...omfg....her black stockings and heels and thong…with her handcuffed...fuck me. She bent over a bit and told me pull her thong aside and lick her....I told her NO...you are doing what I tell you...I could tell she was aching for it...but my teasing was driving her wild. She said okay...
By this time, I had a raging hard on...harder than I have had with her for along time...this was turning me on too!! I took over to the chair in the middle of the room and sat her down..pussy just over the edge...and out came her play cock…I told her that her punishment was she had to let another man fuck her first...then me...and to pretend her to was the other men...so she started to suck me, while I reached down with the dildo and started to rub her pussy...she started to thrust forward, begging for it. I then took off her thong, and gave her pussy a good licking on the edge of the chair...she came all over my face..man...was she wet!! Not a gush…but close!
I then took her over the couch, undid her cuffs and laid her down on the soft blankets..but now I tied her ankles and wrists so she was spread open...I then pretend to open the door and welcome another man...saying she is now ready for you..and not to say anything..just to fuck her, cum and then leave...she started to protest slightly,,,not really knowing reality...but I asked three times if she wanted to stop..and she clearly did not want to stop..! So I pretended to lead him down, tell him he had a big hard cock...and that my wife was ready for him...
I then gently got between her legs..she was dripping wet, moaning but just a little aprehensive...then I slowly entered her...and placed the dildo at her mouth, but not touching.....she moaned and grunted deeply as I found bottom, buried deep. I asked how he felt..and she said fucking amazing! I asked her if she could tell me how is cock felt...she said amazing and she said ... please me to fuck her hard...omg...then said to me...I want your cock in my mouth...she bought it..I think..lol...so I put the dildo in her mouth..she then knew for sure it was me in her! I think she really knew that,,but played along. I fucked her for a few minutes,,then told her it was time she came again..and licked her and fucked her with the dildo..still tied up! OMG..when she came, she screamed and seem to pulse forever.almost passing out!
finally, she told me to stop...untie her and it was my turn to finish!! So I did that...and she pulled me on top of her again and told be to fuck her until I came in her pussy!!! by this point...I had delayed cumming for so long..it felt like I couldn't! I have never had this feeling before!? So I told her she needed to help..so she pulled her legs way back, and told me to ride her hard...so I did just that. She pulled and sucked on my nipples, grabbed my ass,,,managed to reach my balls..omg...I could feel it coming..finally I could feel it cumming..so I told her to grab my ass with both hands legs way back and that I wanted to kiss her while I came!! A few more hard strokes then one last long deep one..and I fucking came so hard..I wanted to push her into the floor...every spurt,..a hard push..allwhile kissing her...
Finally...all spent..and after 5 minutes of not moving...letting my cock subside inside her..I pulled out..and watched my cum flow out of her...omg...she said she has never felt me cum so hard or so much inside her! She said she felt me throb like never before and felt the spurts of cum...something she has never told me!!
Wow...what a night...after about a 1/2 or laying on the blanket..we did it again...only lovingly..but the second cum for me was a lot more dramatic feeling...wow...we eventually cleaned up, showered and then went to bed. Its been a long time since we have fallen asleep in each other arms....
I asked her the next day...and told her I never ever expected her to comply like that...she said...I should have done that years ago...wow...what turned her on really was how I was in control, she did not have to work at it, and she loved the anticipation all day. She finally told me I had not been the 'man' to her for a long time...she had wondered where it had gone...we have been equal partners for such a long time, supportive dad etc. She said that she was okay with all of that..but just with her...she wanted her man back...and she told me she really really appreciated what happened. She will likely never let another man into our room, she said, but the idea was amazing and had no idea I thought it would turn me on...
so...50 shades of grey...you might be a crappy book, but I think we had a breakthtough in communication..from a night of restraint!!...thanks again...!
(note:...I will see how this goes,,whether it lasts...whether she truly will change, but its apparent that I need to change too...to an way I thought she did not want me to be..
Finally, this is the type of skirt she was wearing..with heels and stockings...she has curves though..and looked amazing
One last piece of advice..men...don't afraid to be a man..addition conversation with my wife and my playmate on this subject has lead me to believe us men have become pussies!
Ladies, please COMMUNICATE with us..But use language we understand. don’t couch it in double meanings..just tell us...example...'be a man..treat me like a woman...lead, know what you want..be confident..don't second guess what I want..." (her words exactly a few days later.
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Real Women
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Posted:Apr 21, 2012 9:22 am
Last Updated:Aug 3, 2016 10:02 pm
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Men - what do you consider attractive...
for me, a real woman, real curves, real life is my weakness, brunette, long hair, and of course, some sense of style. Occasionally, redhead is very hot!
Although the picture of this woman is of a model, she is not afraid of her curves..come on ladies..don't you you be afraid!!
gia genevieve - pin-up girl...those 40's ladies are hot!
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My first post..
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Posted:Feb 16, 2012 8:30 am
Last Updated:Sep 10, 2013 9:01 pm
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I am a married male, playing alone for now. I believe actually, I am part of the majority of the male members here. Most are here, playing fantasy and looking, but some of us, are not.
Yah.I know...don't lecture me. I have heard them all. We are not demons, but we are not saints either. I imagine some of the married men on here are just like me.
I love my wife, but she is stuck in a shell of timidity. Whatever I try, I can't get her to release her inner self to be the sexy woman she is...to be out there, to relax, to have sex with the lights on. I have tried everything to open her mind...from romance, to straight talk.
Yes, the sex is okay, yes, she does try, but my desires to try more than one, either couples or two ladies, is what I need to fix and see if it really is up to the fantasy. One on one with a woman who loves to fuck, with the lights on, with stockings and heels in the air...that also is something that I want to experience.
I have had experiences and have used what I have learned at home, how to approach it, and it does appear to me, I am part of the problem, not knowing how to open a womans mind. What I have done outside, has improved whats at home.
So, please comment, just don't give the same old cheating lecture.
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