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How Many?  

WilmingtonFun137 42M
101 posts
5/5/2021 11:43 am
How Many?

My own personal preference is and has always been to find one long term lover and really learn to enjoy and please her. I know others prefer many different partners.

And I'm not asking this question in any judgemental way at all. Everyone has their own beliefs and desires.

How many lovers have you had? How many sexual partners? Is it the same? Do you feel you've had too many? Or just would have not with some now you know differently? Do you feel you have had too many?

Personally, I can count on two hands (and still have a couple fingers left over) how many partner I've had over the years. If I could do it again, there are a couple of short term partners I'd not, but for the most part I've enjoyed my time with all of them. But it's not many. Still, I don't think I want too many. One, maybe two more in my life would be great. Though it'll probably end up more than that.

Still, I go more long term. What about you?

You see light dappling on the water and forget the deep, cold dark beneath.

WilmingtonFun137 42M
285 posts
5/5/2021 11:44 am

Again, let's keep the discussion judgement free. But I'm curious. How many and how many is too many for you or your partner. How many is too few? Or doesn't it matter at all?

You see light dappling on the water and forget the deep, cold dark beneath.

author51 60F  
129960 posts
5/5/2021 11:34 pm

I have had 7 lovers so far in my life.Three of them were Long term like my marriage and an 8 year common law..I am a one lover woman with no multiples..xoxo

WilmingtonFun137 replies on 5/6/2021 11:03 am:
Nice. Long term lovers are by far the best.

Ultraviolet_Sol 43M
622 posts
5/6/2021 12:05 am

I think you did answer your own question... You said you could count on two hands? I am about the same...

It's not the quantity its the quality... To me at least.


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WilmingtonFun137 replies on 5/6/2021 10:40 am:
Absolutely. Quality is so much more important. And much more desired. At least by me.

PonyGirl1965 57F
22090 posts
5/6/2021 12:05 am

I like long term lovers.

WilmingtonFun137 replies on 5/6/2021 10:39 am:
Same here. So much better, and we both keep improving as we go on.

CL_Love 50M/49F
425 posts
5/13/2021 2:39 pm

Until 6 years ago, I had only been with six men total - 5 in high school (one of which I deeply regretted) and my husband (1991-present). Then I started exploring as a hot wife and really believed I would eventually find ONE or maybe TWO more lovers to fulfill my needs and enjoy exploring a few fantasies with. I spent ten months looking for the first one and had some lighter play with a few others along the way (are you counting those in the "number"? ). By the end of the first year, I had added "2" to my sexual history and felt OK about that. Both were men I considered friends and were overall good experiences. Things in this lifestyle didn't exactly pan out as I wished and the search continued for other partners. Had some hit or miss luck. Things evolved over the years and the numbers have ticked up. Sometimes it bothers me as it isn't what I really want. But is also a bit out of my control. I have added a few I wish I hadn't slept with, blown more cock that any woman should have a right to in exchange for some other foreplay I desparately needed, and the search for that last one or two long term lovers continues. Hope springs eternal that it is out there despite all evidence to the contrary. But I think I'm about out of fingers and toes to count on

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