A little opinion about profiles
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Posted:Jan 2, 2011 4:56 pm
Last Updated:Jan 25, 2012 4:37 pm
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Hhhhmmm.....been around so to speak for the last 2 years and seen plenty. Both good and bad and have learned a helluva lot too. Recently I have discovered a trend in profiles. I have noticed that there are a lot of women's profiles on the various sites I have been on, and have seen too many who advertise that they are a woman seeking a woman. After you get to talking to them, they start asking you if their man can be there to watch or be involved on some level.
Being a girl seeking a girl for one on one activities, I find it dishonest and misleading. If you are a girl who is looking for a girl for you and your man at least be honest about it in the profile, or better yet create a couples profile so that you can better find what you are after. It's such a waste of everyone's time, I am finding that it has become a tedious waste of mine.
Just a tip, you might find what you want faster if you dont waste both our time hitting me up when my profile is very up front about what I want......I challenge you out there to follow that lead and do the same......
Guess it's just some food for thought, would be refreshing to see some honesty.......
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Things I have Learned....
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Posted:Sep 9, 2009 7:47 am
Last Updated:May 17, 2010 2:19 pm
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With school starting I guess it got me to thinking about all that I have learned over the last year or so. I have drawn a few conclusions......
1) Finding a job is not as easy as one might think! I have been without one since February and I guess being a recent college grad I figured my chances of finding work would be a little bit better than someone who doesnt have one. I have since learned that finding a job seems to be tougher than actually having one LOL and that many people tend to take what the have for granted.
2) People are not as trustowrthy as they seem. Hmmmmm I think this lesson has pretty much driven me into the ground  I guess I used to be a very naiive(sp?) person by nature, and I wanted to belive the best in everyone around me. I have since learned that most do not deserve the benefit of the doubt. I have also learned who I can truly trust and have pulled those people closer to me, which tells me quality not quantity. 
3) You cannot let the little stupid crap stick to you. I tend to let things get to me, and always seem to want to make it right in the best way I can. I have learned that with people some of them just dont care that their behaviors are affecting other people, and don't seem to care that they hurt others with their actions. I have adopted the attitude that these people will eventually hang themselves out to dry and that it's not worth getting worked up over it or butting into it with my 2 cents. These days I have decided that my energies and time are better served on the positive!
4) You will never rid yourselves of those who tend to be lesser in the intelligence department. Take for instance those who will come into chat and act like idiots. These tards tend to stir the pot and then leave the room. The funniest thing is that people tend to buy into their BS and are still talking about them for many minutes after they leave the room. I have learned that they usually are lined up and there will be 3 or 4 more to replace the moron that just caused trouble. It doesn't do any good to yell, berade or get yourself banned by saying something. All that accomplishes is that you will have to go drag out your backup handle LMAO, and in the mean time they are giggling because you got banned and they are free to pester another day. 
5) I think the most important thing(s) I have learned is about myself. I am a stronger and smarter person than I was a year ago. I have learned a lot of tough lessons, but have come through them with a new sense of who I am and what I am about. I hope that these things have made me a better, more positive person, but only time will tell there. I do know that I won't repeat the same mistakes of last year and move forward with the attitude that the small stuff doesn't matter!
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OK so let's recap
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Posted:Jul 4, 2009 1:59 pm
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2009 6:02 pm
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OK I know I already blogged about this subject but it looks as though it has moved past the stage of being a joke so I thought it was time to recap.
As a woman on Local Adult Companion I feel like sometimes we tend to get treated as "things", instead of people sometimes. I will also say that I have seen a good share of men here who have the same complaint; so I know that this is a 2 sided coin so to speak.
As most know, I am looking only for women, and have spent countless hours editing and doctoring my profile to be VERY clear about what I am looking for. I had been somewhat vague in the past and I figured if I was able to make enough changes to it that it would cut down on the number of emails that I recieved from guys. Amazingly enough it actually did trim the numbers down, which saves me some time. I even turned on my auto reply to let guys know that they wouldnt get any response from me.
In addition, I also changed my headline to read, "Looking for LADIES only.....men need not apply" because I know that not all people can see my profile and wanted to be sure that I was communicating clearly.
My last blog on this particular subject was more of a joke only because right after I made all those changes to my profile, I recieved an email from a guy, which I would like to post in here just so we can take a look. The email read as follows:
"Hey there. How are you doin? I saw your profile and wanted to see if you maybe wanted to meet for lunch or coffee one day. This isnt so BS letter. I am being honest and truthful. Please respond either way if you are interested or not out of respect. I am lookin forward to hearing from ya."
Now with the auto reply set up he would have gotten a message that looked something similar to this:
"Thanks for taking the time to send me over some mail. If this is a guy sending it over, please be aware that I do not reply to emails from men and will not be sending any further replies to you."
So I am thinking, hmmmm, hes obviously read the profile and should have seen the women only thing, but maybe he was having an off day and sent it anyways. Now by this time he should know that he wont get a response back from me and this will be the last time I hear from him.
I do have a sense of humor and so I wrote the literacy blog after recieving the email because I found it very ironic that he would actually send me that email AFTER I changed up the profile to be VERY clear.
I got many responses to the blog and it was basically one of those humor stories to give you a giggle. Anyways, I recieved a SECOND email from this young man today. Not only did he email me a second time, but he basically sent me the EXACT same email.
My first reaction is WTF?? followed by a slightly irritated feeling. Im thinking......hmmmmm.......hes asking for a reply out of respect, what about respecting my wishes and not bothering me a second time AND requesting me to respond to him.
So now my thinking is this:
I guess I dont understand why they even bother.....if they can email you then you KNOW they can read the profile so they have no excuse not to pay attention. I know that guys are very intelligent creatures typically and it is really sad that one or two have to make them look bad like that!
So at this point I decided to do something out of character and I did send back a response which went something like this:
"Hmmmm....respect.....were you thinking that I should respect you with a response when you couldnt respect me enough to read the profile and RESPECT my wishes. Let me make this crystal clear for you, as my profile states I am only seeking WOMEN, and not in the least looking for any men.
After I sent the response email I promptly blocked him to prevent any further communications, and I am left wondering why people cant take the time to actually read the profile over and check their cupid settings before sending that email. I mean seriously if you are really looking for a match then doesnt it make more sense to put your efforts into those with whom you think you have a shot at meeting rather than to waste a bunch of time sending out a gazillion emails to a bunch of people that wouldnt give you the time of day.
I have to say that I instantly lose respect for those guys who chose to email me, looking for a hookup. Now I do get some emails from guys that I know as friends and that doesnt bother me in the least. What bugs me is those emails that show such a blatent lack of respect for me, and a complete disregard for what I have had to say in my profile.
This leaves me thinking that what I have to say doesnt matter, and that people who behave this way are making those who actually read the profiles and respect others look bad and for that I am truly sorry. I continue to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, although I may be prone to outbursts from time to time when I get the impression that they just arent hearing me.
Anyways, I go forward now and leave this ridiculous scenario behind me....ENOUGH SAID
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The Open Road
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Posted:Jul 4, 2009 9:14 am
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2009 6:01 pm
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I have had the opportunity to take my motorcycle out of the garage several times this week and it has been great to get out onto the open road. To feel the wind as it presses into me; causing me to press into the bike and becme one with it.
There is something very empowering about feeling the asphalt beneath me and seeing the scenery pass me as I travel down the road. Feeling the vibration and hearing the wind blow over me, nothing between me and the elements.
It is also a very solitary experience to ride a motorcycle and it leaves me alone with my thoughts; it also gives me a chance to reflect on things. I find it to be a time when I can think on the direction my life has taken or to think about where I might want to go both figuratively and literally. It allows me to leave all the responsibilities and "have to's" behind temprarily and gives me a mini vacation from my life.
I know that will need to return to my life at some point and resume all of those things that overtake on a daily basis, but the temporary respite is a nice quiet time for myself. It gives me the drive I need to return to all the things that are waiting for my attention and gives me a fresh start on things.
I find that when I return to the garage to park the bike that I feel refreshed and ready to get back into my life, and take care of the business before me.
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Safety First!!!!
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Posted:Jun 15, 2009 12:32 pm
Last Updated:Jul 4, 2009 2:44 pm
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I have to say that I enjoyed this PDX party the best of all the previous parties I have been to. I finally felt like I had gotten to know enough people to feel comfortable in my surroundings, and was able to roam around some and socialize. I think that I am finally starting to figure this stuff out LOL.
I had a GREAT time, but I also learned a few things as well. I realized that despite how well we think we know people that it never pays to trust too quickly. I am a firm believer in the fact that it does take time to build that trust and it is foolish to do otherwise. I discovered that I may not know some as well as I thought I did and given a situation where I would be left alone with certain people at parties, now I would think twice about it.
As women especially we all need to be vigilant at all times, and when alcohol becomes involved you need to be especially careful. If there is one thing I could say when giving advice there is to always check in with someone. I have someone who looks out for me at meets and parties and I ALWAYS check in with them and tell them where I am going and who with. I mean realistically ask yourself this question: "If I disappeared from a party, would anyone know where to come looking for me?" if the answer is no then you should think twice about going in the first place.
Another thing that really opened up my eyes is that rule your girlfriend always told you about not accepting any drink from anyone you don't trust. I have come to the conclusion that you just don't know if something extra got slipped in or not. And you may think you know someone, but do you really know who is handing you that drink??
It makes you realize that it doesn't take long to put yourself in a bad position, and that you may not know people as well as you think you do!!
The things I learned about this weekend don't make me cynical, it just makes me realize that I have put myself into a few bad positions that ended up working out just fine, no harm no foul; but it would have been so easy for something to go sideways because I neglected the most basic awareness to my surroundings. It really makes me rethink the way I act and the decisions I make when I go to future events.
As a last note I wanted to say that I also saw things this weekend that really built my confidence in the small group of new friends I have made here. I feel like I have chosen some great people to be in that circle and KNOW that if I disappeared at a party that they would surely come looking for me!
I really wasn't sure what this blog was really about when I started to write it. I guess its really about safety and looking out for yourself first and foremost.
so play nice and be SAFE!!
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RESPECT
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Posted:Jun 5, 2009 12:14 pm
Last Updated:Jul 4, 2009 2:45 pm
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Ok so here it is, I figure it cant hurt to get it out there right?? Like it or not, disagree or agree with me here goes.
RESPECT
It seems that most guys I have come across lately have no idea what this word This is what respect means to me.
1. When you ask me to meet you for drinks and I politely turn you down.....YOU STOP ASKING!! If I wasn't interested the first time you asked me to meet you, I won't be interested the 10th or 11th time either....GET A CLUE!!!
2. When I tell you in chat that I am only here looking for women, and politely tell you no thanks, you don't make some kind of stupid comment about changing my mind ir some other kind of comeback.......TAKE YOUR BUTT HURT SELF AND SHUT THE F*#K UP!
3. When you try to hit on me without reading the profile, or at least observing me in chat to see that I'M NOT INTERESTED IN MEN..... don't bother! If I wanted that kind of attention, I would have it listed in my profile.
4. When you come into the room and start running down the list of ladies in there (my handle almost always lists out at the top of that list) hitting on every girl in there.......GET A LIFE! YOU OBVIOUSLY DON'T GET THAT most GIRLS NEED MORE THAN A hey baby TO GET THEM IN THE SACK....PISS OFF!!!
I'm sorry to be such a bitch here, but I had to get it out there somehow. Ladies want respect, regardless if it is here or out in the world, and if you aren't willing or able to give it then maybe you ought to crawl back under that rock and stay there!!
I know that this blog won't change peoples behaviors and there is always going to be those ignorant fools out there who just don't get it; I also know that this is a sex site, but the fact that this is a sex site does not negate the fact that we are ALL human beings and respect is a basic human behavior that we all should show one another.
And finally I know that MOST guys (notice I say MOST here, not ALL guys are like this) have only enough blood to think with either one head or the other, but that is NO excuse to show such a lack of respect for her by behaving that way or you by acting that way and thinking it is OK......EVER!!!
To those who do continuously show that respect towards others I salute you; keep up the great work! for those idiots out there who just don't get it, my iggy bin ALWAYS HAS ROOM FOR ONE MORE!!
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Change my mind??
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Posted:Jun 4, 2009 7:48 am
Last Updated:Jul 4, 2009 2:46 pm
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OK the time has come for me to ask the question....can someone explain to me why some guys think they can change your mind if you state that you are ONLY here looking for women?
I cannot tell you how many times I've been in chat when some ignorant fool tries to hit on me and I politely tell them I am only here looking for women. Instead of being equally polite in return they get all BUTT HURT and make a comment about how they could change my mind on that......WTF?????
First of all, I am very content with my sexuality and what makes you think that I WANT to change it?
Second, if you are stupid enough to make an ASSumtion (you get the inference there LOL ) about my situation you deserve the response that you get. I am polite to a point, but if you decide to ASSume something you will be made out to be an ass and then promptly cast into the iggy bin.
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh or cruel, but I have experienced enough ignorant fools in the chat room to make me feel as if they dont deserve my being polite if they decide to make a stupid comment such as that.
Anyways, I guess I am just curious if this is really the way a lot of people think or if this is just a small sliver of the population. I have only run into a few peeps here that say this kind of stuff which tells me that it is a small sliver; but it would be nice to hear from any other bi-ladies to get some other opinions. Actually any opinion would be great to see LOL.
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Trust....
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Posted:Apr 26, 2009 9:52 pm
Last Updated:Jan 25, 2012 4:36 pm
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I guess I am still figuring things out. It seems as though my judgement on people is so off these days, and I just dont know who I can really trust. I feel like I look at people now and wonder what they want from me or what their motives are. I feel like I've become so cynical, and distrusting of others. Maybe its just a funk I'm in, maybe not.....guess I will be patient and time will tell who can be trusted and who cannot.
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Friends??? I think not.....
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Posted:Apr 21, 2009 8:56 am
Last Updated:Jan 25, 2012 4:35 pm
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Well it seems as though things have gotten pretty intense around here. In the last 2 weeks, I've seen gossip, lying, drama, and BS. I've realized several things:
1. People who say they are your friends most likely aren't, they usually have an alterior motive of some kind.
2. When I try to be nice and help out a friend, I find out that they really didn't want my help and couldn't be honest enough to just tell me.
3. I cant trust some who have said they were my friends because as soon as I start talking to them they start talking s*@t about others.
4. I watch people play stupid games in the chat room, bringing their drama s*@t into chat (BTW, if you were really trying to address it with the person you are pissed at you would be doing it on IM where it's private and no one else would have to deal with it).
With all these things said, I guess thinking that some were my friends that I was sadly mistaken. I have taken several steps back and realized that I was taking this whole thing far too seriously, and have trusted far too many people; that is my fault and I take ownership of that one. My result, is that I have decided to take a break from the whole thing. I won't be spending as much time in the chat room, because frankly my BS meter is maxed out. My true friends know how to find me, and those true friends can and will be honest with me regardless of the situation. Maybe after some time off I can come back and say hi to a few people. I'll still be checking my mail here, and of course I'm always available to friends on IM. At any rate, hope everyone can at least try and play nice....CIAO!!
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Friends......and Lovers?
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Posted:Apr 15, 2009 1:23 pm
Last Updated:Jul 4, 2009 2:50 pm
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OK here goes.....I've never really been much into blogging, but I guess I am looking to see if anyone agrees with me. First of all, let me make one thing clear, I do know that this is a sex site; I know that people typically come here to look for and find sexual partners. I guess my question is this, can you also find friends here; real friends, not just "fuck buddies"???
I feel like I have made some friends here, and that not "every" connection made here is 100% based on whether or not I'm going to get laid by them. I spose it's stupidity on my part to think that; I guess I just see the best in most people and find it hard to believe that everyone who uses this site is that shallow.
Ive been told that you can't "fuck" your friends; but another question I have is this; some of us who are in relationships tend to make that other person a really good friend, and others even make that person their "best friend".
So based on that, I do believe that you can be friends with some people, and that the sex can be an added bonus. I also believe that you can be friends with some people and NEVER have sex with that person. Maybe I'm naiive to think that, I guess if I am so be it; and if thats the case, maybe I really am in the wrong place.
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