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Posted:Apr 4, 2008 6:42 pm
Last Updated:Sep 2, 2008 8:52 pm
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When you send another member an email on this site that includes an invitation to join your Friends Network, there are four things that can happen. First, you can get no response at all. Nothing. Second, you can get a message saying that the member has declined your invitation. Third, you can get a message saying that the member's invitation is pending. And fourth, you can get a message saying that the member has accepted your invitation and is in your Friends Network. I would catagorize these outcomes by assigning each one a number on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the least desirable, most depressing, and 10 being the most desirable, encouraging, and generally positive.
On a scale of 1 to 10, no response at all gets a rating of 0; this indicates that the member to whom you have sent the email and invitation doesn't even consider you worthy of any response at all. Getting a response saying that the member has declined your invitation gets a 2; a cold blow to your ego and somewhat depressing but it is at least an honest response and lets you know where you stand. It's difficult to know how to rate a response in which you get a message saying the the member's invitation is pending but I would give it a 2.25; I rate it slightly higher than a "declined" simply because it doesnt close the door in your face. But one has to wonder how cruel and unfriendly it is for someone to tell you that they will just have to think about your invitation to join your Friends Network.... like... FOREVER! Fourth and final is the response that tells you that the other member has accepted your invitation and is in your Friends Network; the rating that I would assign to this response varies according to what happens as a result of or in conjunction with it. The "Hollywood Ending", "End of the Rainbow Pot of Gold" outcome would be that you get an encouraging email of a very positive nature back from the member, start exchanging emails, and, within a reasonable amount of time, get together with them for whatever kind of relationship you agree to have and this outcome rates a solid 10. Sadly, I must admit that, although I've come close to it a couple of times, this has never happened to me on this site. Another possible outcome, one that has happened to me all too often, is that, in response to your well written, 5, 10 or more line paragraph that you sent them, you get an email reply consisting of one or two 3 or 4 word sentences which does not respond to anything you said in your email and says something like "hi hun. you're cute. lets talk" and when you send them another email trying to get them to talk, they seem to have vanished; such a response I would give a rating of negative 2.5; it's rude, insulting and goes nowhere fast. And finally, there is the outcome where they accept your invitation to join your Friends Network but never reply to any of your emails. And for this response I don't have a number low enough; it just indicates that they like your picture and/or want to add another member to the number of friends in their Friends Network or, worst than that, it's like sticking you in the "Let's just be friends" zone... forever. I just keep reminding myself that whatever the situation is, odds are that it will eventually change. Oh well... as the saying goes, "Hope is the last to die".
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Latest problems with Xmatch.
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Posted:Jul 25, 2007 8:16 pm
Last Updated:Sep 2, 2008 8:52 pm
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About a month ago, I noticed that when I would go to another member's page to send them an email, there was no longer an option to do a spelling check. When I contacted Customer Service about this, they made several idiotic suggestions, including that I try logging in using another browser ( I mean how ridiculous is that; does anybody really believe that using a different browser to log in is going to have ANY effect on the contents of the site). Maybe they had to cut out the spell check option to save money so they would have more to spend on their new VIP site. Also, about two weeks ago, when I started to browse the listing of "Member Near You", I noticed that the distance away from me was now being given in kilometers instead of miles. So could the reason for this be that Xmatch has had some sort of huge, unexpected increase in European members? I wonder what's next; are they going to start giving male endownment sizes and braw sizes in centermeters and body heights in meters? Of course when I contacted Customer Service about this, they sent me a reply saying that they would "look into it" and as usual and not surprisingly they have as yet done nothing to fix this problem.
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Latest problems with Xmatch.
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Posted:Jul 25, 2007 8:15 pm
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 1:6 am
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About a month ago, I noticed that when I would go to another member's page to send them an email, there was no longer an option to do a spelling check. When I contacted Customer Service about this, they made several idiotic suggestions, including that I try logging in using another browser ( I mean how ridiculous is that; does anybody really believe that using a different browser to log in is going to have ANY effect on the contents of the site). Maybe they had to cut out the spell check option to save money so they would have more to spend on their new VIP site. Also, about two weeks ago, when I started to browse the listing of "Member Near You", I noticed that the distance away from me was now being given in kilometers instead of miles. So could the reason for this be that Xmatch has had some sort of huge, unexpected increase in European members? I wonder what's next; are they going to start giving male endownment sizes and braw sizes in centermeters and body heights in meters? Of course when I contacted Customer Service about this, they sent me a reply saying that they would "look into it" and as usual and not surprisingly they have as yet done nothing to fix this problem.
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Latest problems with Xmatch.
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Posted:Jul 25, 2007 8:13 pm
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 1:6 am
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About a month ago, I noticed that when I would go to another member's page to send them an email, there was no longer an option to do a spelling check. When I contacted Customer Service about this, they made several idiotic suggestions, including that I try logging in using another browser ( I mean how ridiculous is that; does anybody really believe that using a different browser to log in is going to have ANY effect on the contents of the site). Maybe they had to cut out the spell check option to save money so they would have more to spend on their new VIP site. Also, about two weeks ago, when I started to browse the listing of "Member Near You", I noticed that the distance away from me was now being given in kilometers instead of miles. So could the reason for this be that Xmatch has had some sort of huge, unexpected increase in European members? I wonder what's next; are they going to start giving male endownment sizes and braw sizes in centermeters and body heights in meters? Of course when I contacted Customer Service about this, they sent me a reply saying that they would "look into it" and as usual and not surprisingly they have as yet done nothing to fix this problem.
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Latest problems with Xmatch.
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Posted:Jul 25, 2007 8:10 pm
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 1:6 am
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About a month ago, I noticed that when I would go to another member's page to send them an email, there was no longer an option to do a spelling check. When I contacted Customer Service about this, they made several idiotic suggestions, including that I try logging in using another browser ( I mean how ridiculous is that; does anybody really believe that using a different browser to log in is going to have ANY effect on the contents of the site). Maybe they had to cut out the spell check option to save money so they would have more to spend on their new VIP site. Also, about two weeks ago, when I started to browse the listing of "Member Near You", I noticed that the distance away from me was now being given in kilometers instead of miles. So could the reason for this be that Xmatch has had some sort of huge, unexpected increase in European members? I wonder what's next; are they going to start giving male endownment sizes and braw sizes in centermeters and body heights in meters? Of course when I contacted Customer Service about this, they sent me a reply saying that they would "look into it" and as usual and not surprisingly they have as yet done nothing to fix this problem.
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Friends (?) Networks
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Posted:Jul 6, 2007 5:35 pm
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2007 9:03 am
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I've often wondered about why other members, to whom I send emails including invitations to join my Friends Network, accept these invitations. Isn't a friend supposed to be someone who enjoys your company and, therefore, enjoys getting together with you from time to time? Well, of the 44 members listed in my Friends Network, only nine have ever sent replies to my emails to them, and over half of those live over a thousand miles away. I have never heard anything from the remaining 35 members. I can only conclude that these 35 members who have never replied accepted my invitation to join my Friends Network because they liked my picture and/or so that they could add my picture to their Friends Network, thereby increasing the number of their friends; this seems to me to be completely dishonest, unkind, rather rude, and actually unfriendly.
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Friends (?) Networks
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Posted:Jul 6, 2007 5:32 pm
Last Updated:Jul 25, 2007 8:15 pm
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I've often wondered about why other members, to whom I send emails including invitations to join my Friends Network, accept these invitations. Isn't a friend supposed to be someone who enjoys your company and, therefore, enjoys getting together with you from time to time? Well, of the 44 members listed in my Friends Network, only nine have ever sent replies to my emails to them, and over half of those live over a thousand miles away. I have never heard anything from the remaining 35 members. I can only conclude that these 35 members who have never replied accepted my invitation to join my Friends Network because they liked my picture and/or so that they could add my picture to their Friends Network, thereby increasing the number of their friends; this seems to me to be completely dishonest, unkind, rather rude, and actually unfriendly.
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Unreal Members and Game Players
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Posted:Feb 8, 2007 3:58 pm
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 1:6 am
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Since I've been on this site, I've learned how to spot a member who's not for real or is into head games; when I send another member an email that's composed of a well written paragraph containing 12 or more sentences, in which I make specific statements and ask specific questions and the response I get is either a 5 or 6 word sentence ("Hi Babe! You're cute. Let's talk".)and/or doesn't contain any resoponses to anything I said in my email, then I know that thet're not for real or only interested in playing head games. Another way to tell that a member is not for real is in their profile. I've noticed that more than a few profiles contain the same sentences, word for word: "Hi there. I'm just a regular girl. Not willing to change my life, just trying to make it better. I'm a little shy at first but, once I warm up, I'm really something else....etc." And usually, when the member's picture has the face scratched out leaving a white oval spot, they're not for real.
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Judgement of the Nonjudgemental.
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Posted:Aug 27, 2006 6:18 pm
Last Updated:Dec 16, 2007 9:15 pm
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All too often when reading profiles I have noticed that the women writing them go out of their way to emphasise that they are nonjudgemental, as if by making this claim, they had somehow placed a halo on their empty little heads. In part this could be written of as their overabundant willingness to be politically correct or to bend to social pressure; the words "judge" and "judgemental" have curiously become viciously, unjustly, and unreasonably stigmatized in and by our society. But for the record, there is nothing wrong with being judgemental; being judgemental is not only completely natural but an absolute necessity for life. All living creatures are judgemental; they have to be to insure their survival. Not being willing to judge and be judged by others is a strategy that only promotes and sustains the wrongs that people do; by depriving others of your judgement, you are depriving them of important feedback that could give them a different perspective to consider and perhaps allow them to see the error of their ways. The attainable ideal is to judge and be prepared to be judged; establish a well reasoned set of standards and then use objective observation to judge yourself and others by those standards.
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Social Smokers.
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Posted:Jun 26, 2006 7:00 pm
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2007 9:04 am
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When reading the profiles of female members I am browsing, I've often noticed that in the part of the profile where it asks if they smoke many answer by saying that they are a "light social smoker". Well what is a social smoker? Is it perhaps a person who believes that to be sociable or socially acceptable they have to demonstrate their willingness to poison themselves by inhaling cigarett smoke which, after all, contains about 4,000 known carcinogens and toxins? If so, how odd is that?
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Instant Replies>
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Posted:Jun 23, 2006 7:31 pm
Last Updated:Jul 25, 2007 8:13 pm
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I hate it when I send another member a message and they send me an "Instant Reply" in return. An Instant Reply implies that the person to whom you sent the message doesn't consider you to be worth the 60 to 90 seconds it would take them to type a real, communicative response.
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