You picked me to do what
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Posted:Sep 5, 2015 12:13 pm
Last Updated:Sep 7, 2015 6:37 am
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Good afternoon, I hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face. Don't be looking here, I had one of those fucked up nights.
I was not going to blog about this, but here goes.
I have been tapped to be an Local Adult Companion ambassador. I saw that yesterday, and I am like really. Seriously.
I'm thinking, you want me to welcome new men to the site. Hell, a room full of church ladies is looking pretty good at the moment.
Just how did I get picked for this illustrious job.
They give you profiles of 20 men (in my case). They want me to make some choices, and send a message.
I have not looked at the 20 they put on my task list for today. Yes I have an Local Adult Companion ambassador task list...................
Out of those 20, 4 had pictures. One with pictures did admit he was married. One guy had 3 profiles, it was so obvious a first grader could have seen that.
Only one profile without a pic had any kind of substantial information in their profile.
The rest, had nothing, and they will be whining and wondering why they get no hits. If you are going to put nothing in your profile, why bother.
I had no interest in any of them at all. Well, that's a lie. One was I believe 62, he had face pics and package pics. I still cant put the package pics and the face pics together.
It just doesn't seem to match up. And I am not a big fan of package pics. I prefer to see the package in person.......... 
I send these dudes something like this. Local Adult Companion has asked me to be an ambassador to welcome you to the site. Or something close to that.
I figured with this ambassador stuff, they had an idea, to help promote the site. The idea is only good if it works.
First of all, I don't normally search out men and hit them up. I may see a profile that catches my eye, and let the person know. That's about it.
Am I the right person for this ambassadorship, probably not.
I wonder if I get a crown or sash.
Or, like the do nothing ambassadors of our country, I may get my own embassy, yeah, I think an embassy would do it for me. That might be an incentive.
They are giving points for each message sent out.
I am wondering if any of my fellow bloggers, or commenters was selected as well, and how well has your ambassadorship been going......
and do you feel as special as I do.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here................thegrls
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My Besties
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Posted:Sep 4, 2015 9:05 am
Last Updated:Sep 5, 2015 10:59 am
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good morning, i hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face.
If I had my way, I would have one on my face every morning.
I believe this will be a 2 blog morning, unless I combine them into this one.
My friend Crystal, . A bestie i worked with about 7 years ago, lost contact with, and then found again.
Crystal, 17 years younger and a single mother. She was very open about her sexuality and play life, then and now.
My other friend Sharon , I met at the same time, at the same place. We all worked together.
Sharon, also single, and my age. Sharon was doing her ex husband, an ex boyfriend, and a current boyfriend.
I was in a bad marriage, and had in my mind a big fat zero of sexuality about me.
These women taught me the terms friends with benefits, fuck buddies, and whatever else they were in to. They opened my eyes.
Between those 2, and a male customer that totally opened up my sexuality, my sex life took a totally different turn.
I remind these two, they helped make me into the sensuous, open woman I am today.
It has been a wonderful ride, I am happy they went on most of it with me.
My besties are still here, and they know about every one of the men, except for some of the strays.
It's great to have people to share things with, especially since they don't judge.
They pretty much won't say anything, as long as I don't go back to something that may hurt me, or mess with my psych.
I had a couple more besties, that are no longer here on earth. Appreciate your besties, and let them know. Life can change in a blink.
Life, moves fast and is ever changing. I look for the positive in every situation, even if the situation looks impossible. There is always something good to take away from any experience, even if it is a lesson.
This is how I live my life now. I don't want to look back and say, I wish I had done this, or told someone that.
For me, no regrets.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..............thegrls
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On line dating, some of those pesky things
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Posted:Sep 1, 2015 8:01 am
Last Updated:Sep 19, 2015 2:26 pm
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good morning, i hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face.
On-line dating is something I started about 6 years ago. I was talked into it, by more than one person that has had success, but a person has to be very diligent.
I realize many consider Local Adult Companion an adult sex sight. I am on more than one site, and have tried some sites just for shits and giggles. This is by far my favorite sight. compared to the vanilla sites, people are up front about the sex.
Of course with that being said, with on line dating, you have all the lil pesky things as well.
Honesty - that person can easily get away with saying anything. it's the internet after all. We can all be who we want to be.
Distance - I didn't think this was an issue at first, but it is. It seems even an hour away is too far. I travel for a living, and did not realize this, but it is a big issue.
Pictures - those profile pictures are like meeting a person for the first time. They are as important as you looking your best when you go out to a stomping ground.
Words - since it is a profile, these do give the person a lil preview of who you are.
Conversation - you both have to be a part of it.
I am sure there are more you can think of.
The two women that finally convinced me to on line date, were two total strangers to me. But they must have made some sense, as I joined the ranks.
One thing they said, and I agree with it from experience now is,
Weed them out. 98 percent of the profiles are bullshit. 2 percent are decent.
Out of those 2 percent, hopefully they are looking for the same thing. If not, you start over.
Those are very daunting odds. Almost slim to none. Look at it this way. When you meet someone, if the attraction or spark is not there, it's not going to be anything, but maybe a one nighter, if that's what you want. Or, you give it another shot.
One thing I do like about on line, is i usually take my time to get to know someone. by the time we meet, I know as much about them that I can know.
My biggest issue with on line, is the honesty aspect. I think if you meet the old fashioned way, in person out somewhere they can't hide as much. They will live in your area or city, you may have some common friends, or stomping grounds, you may follow the sports team, etc.
Can they be dishonest, of course, but not as easily as on line.
I am not dissing anybody by any means, we all do what we do. I just feel, that if some were more truthful and forthcoming, outcomes would be different.
Also, meeting someone in person is totally different that on line chatting or texting. That personality, comes out. That personality has alot to do with what may or may not happen.
Where am I going with this, hell I don't know.
On line dating can be very daunting, but I do like it.
My advice, depending on what you are looking for, be diligent, take everything with a grain of salt, have an open mind, be spontaneous, and enjoy, until what you want comes along.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here...............thegrls
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No regrets
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Posted:Aug 30, 2015 9:43 am
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2015 6:28 am
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I hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face. Mine is there.
Since my knee surgery, I have stepped back into something I didn't think I would be.
A door was opened again, and i stepped through it.
For this reason and this reason, I did.
And because I WANTED TO. I CHOSE TO. MY EYES ARE WIDE OPEN.
There are some things in life we cannot change.
We accept them for what they are.
We make a decision, figure it out to your satisfaction, or move on.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here......................thegrls
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The OH MY, media reaction about Ashley Madison
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Posted:Aug 26, 2015 8:09 am
Last Updated:Aug 30, 2015 9:32 am
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Good morning, I hope this finds you with that secret smile.
This is a lil more of my thoughts on the Ashley Madison outing.
First of all, I did not state this on my blog yesterday, I am not judging anyone, that is far from what I or anybody should be doing.
What amuses me now, is it seems on a daily basis, the news media as well as so many out there, are up in arms about the 32 million. I liken them to the church ladies in action.
Stepping out of the marriage vows has happened since the beginning of time, and will continue until the end of time.
Someone I know brought this up about marriage years ago. It is a contract between two people, that one will eventually break.
My ex cheated to my knowledge now, maybe 24 of the 30 years we were married. He was probably doing it the whole time, that just hasn't come up, and frankly, I don't care.
Some men, and I say some, should not be in a committed relationship of any kind. I am using my Ex as an example, as well as what I have gathered and experienced from some of my lovers over the last few dating years.
My ex, cheated on me and his girl friend or friends at the same time. Some men will always be that man or woman for some reason. I believe that no matter what the other person in that couple does, that cheater will cheat.
I have been on both sides of the fence. Do I knowingly get involved with an attached man, I have a couple times.
It's the unknowing that someone is attached that people need to understand. Some men or women are good at hiding the fact they are attached. When it comes all comes out, many lives are impacted.
From my standpoint, I prefer to be informed someone is attached. There are many out there that are forthcoming, thank you. Give me or the other person the option.
Some people have valid reasons, for stepping across those lines. I know some of you won't agree with that, and I didn't at first, but now I do.
You also have the couples that enjoy swinging. They knowingly enjoy pleasure with others, with their significant other knowing and/or participating. Maybe they have the secret. Who knows. Wouldn't the media and church ladies love this.
Since i am off work at the moment while my knee rehabs, i see more news and tv than I would like.
I am still amazed at the Oh my's by the media. The church ladies are having a field day. 
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here...............thegrls
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32 million, not a number to sneeze at
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Posted:Aug 25, 2015 10:57 am
Last Updated:Aug 26, 2015 9:09 am
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Good afternoon, I hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face.
32 million supposedly married men have been outed on Ashley Madison. I was on there for a minute.
So far, the only famous one is Josh Dugger. I am sure there are more important and famous people in that mix of 32 million men.
This has impacted me for some reason. I am one of those single women out there, wanting to become part of couple.
32 million married men, 32 million. That is not a small number.
I am sure most of them were on there just looking, and have not made contact...................... that is according to the ones willing to speak. I believe that, don't you.....................
It's just mind boggling. That shows 32 million couples, and the man is looking.
I keep asking why. Why be part of a couple, why be married. There are so many why's, and no true answer.
Is it because they can, who knows.
According to google, there are 158.6 adult women, and 151.4 adult men in the united states from one statistic site.
Another shows 21 and over to be at 196,899,193 total men and women.
I'm guessing about 10 percent were on Ashley Madison, looking and playing.
I wonder how many we have on Local Adult Companion, Tinder, POF, and every other dating site out there, and how many are attached.
It's sort of daunting if you are a single female trying to navigate passed the attached ones.
32 million men, that's a lot of men.
I'm like, maybe I should give it up, and just do the friends with benefits thing.
The thing is, some of those attached ones think it's ok to be fwb. It's not, but that is another blog.
To be fair to the single person, female or male, it's not ok, for an attached person to be out looking and not be honest about being attached. That is one of my biggest deal breakers.
Maybe our security breech was the Ashley Madison hackers trying to breech the Local Adult Companion site. That we won't know.
If this site does get hacked, truthfully, it will be an inconvenience, but not anything I hide anyway.
The number, 32 million was just so daunting is all. Its like I have to work harder to keep the attached/marrieds at bay.
Some of them are very good at covering their tracks, oh hell, my ex was and is a cheater, and I met him the old fashioned way.
Do we give up, NO. We get more diligent, or put on the blinders and throw caution to the wind.
Anybody else here do Ashley Madison. Like I said, I did, but only for a very, very short time. Believe it or not some of those innocent men were single.... Or so their profile said. 
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here............thegrls
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Hey, I have missed you
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Posted:Aug 13, 2015 5:21 pm
Last Updated:Aug 25, 2015 10:07 am
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Hello, I hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face.
I have not written a blog since the 10th symposium "On slut". That seems like forever ago. Around 3 weeks.
I have not been on any on-line sites on a regular basis, since that same time as well.
I have answered messages twice during the whole time. I updated my status one time.
Don't get me wrong, I have thought about blogging, or checking some fellow blogs, but it seems I have not felt like it.
Obviously I needed some me time. This is probably the best time this could have happened.
I just had major surgery one month ago today. I have been back to my house for 2 weeks now.
I am somewhat limited by my recuperation, the doctor, and my favorite person, the pain meister (my physical therapist) have me under thumb 2 - 3 times a week.
I am not in an ongoing relationship of any sort.
There is no body at the house, my roommate travels like I do.
I have had a lot of time to think. Which can be good or not. I over contemplate. I am a what, where, when and why person.
The passed month, has had me thinking, thinking.
Am I distancing myself from people. NO.
I started hooking up with breathing, live people, and friends. I have had the desire to
start going out. Connect with the world.
Today, I got on-line, and I blogged. I am coming back, I am on fire.
And yes, I could have had playtime so many times. In fact I have turned it down.
I did enjoy the pleasure of a chosen one. The day the DOC turned me loose I took a road trip for a couple of days. I don't know if that will get blogged about.
I have been really, really naughty, and not answered messages. Some will get answered, some will not.
I am ready to step out and be naughty myself. I have 4 weeks before I get sent back to work.
I plan on enjoying every minute.
Just wanted to say hey, I missed you.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here............thegrls
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We are all slutty
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Posted:Jul 26, 2015 2:47 pm
Last Updated:Jul 31, 2015 8:45 pm
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On Slut Is The Topic For The Tenth Virtual Symposium
Here is what I found, when I googled the word slut.
Although the ultimate origin of the word slut is unknown, it first appeared in Middle English in 1402 as slutte (AHD), with the meaning "a dirty, untidy, or slovenly woman".[8] Even earlier, Geoffrey Chaucer used the word sluttish (c. 1386) to describe a slovenly man; however, later uses appear almost exclusively associated with women.[8] The modern sense of "a sexually promiscuous woman" dates to at least 1450.
There it is, "a sexually promiscuous woman". Not a man that may be sexually promiscuous. I like this definition.
I remember our parents and other mentors in life some how describe a woman that likes sex as a slut. That was their way of discouraging us from having sex.
We all remember the girl in school that fucked everybody.
We all have the co-worker that likes to fuck everybody.
It could be male or female.
I think the words to look at are, anybody and everybody, when discussing the word slut.
From my perspective a slut is one who has sex, but does not care who they fuck. I personally will not diss a person for their sexual preferences, or acts.
I have questioned myself, since I got divorced, I have fucked alot of men.
Does that make me a slut. I don't like to think so.
Yes, I do enjoy playtime, very much. I am going to assume many of you on here do as well.
Sex, feels good, is pleasurable, feels really good. Sex is part of life's cycle. something has to feel good to get us to do it over and over again. in order to reproduce, sex was made for pleasure. Without the pleasure, we would not do it repeatedly, and we would not reproduce.
Pleasure has been associated with being a slut over the years. I like PLEASURE, maybe I am a slut, but one with caution.
Does that mean people participating in a threesome, swingers party, or any other event where everybody is fucking everybody are sluts. That's a different discussion.
When I say I am a,
slot slut
coffee slut
food slut
golf slut
music slut
car slut
cycle slut
people understand. it's something I like.
I look at it this way, am I a slut, no, but am I slutty yes. We all are slutty in a sense.
If the truth be told, the vanilla world will say we who are on Local Adult Companion are all sluts. OH HELL, maybe we are.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here.............thegrls
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drinking, smoke, and the medical feild
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Posted:Jul 23, 2015 9:03 am
Last Updated:Aug 26, 2015 6:38 am
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good morning, i hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face.
My pain meister (the physical therapist) came by early this morning. Evidently, I am progressing quite well.
He said my doc would be happy with my progress when he saw me on tuesday.
He also felt the doc would be releasing me to drive and go to out patient pain meisters. I hope i can talk my doc into letting my pt come to the house.
I just need to be checked on to make sure I am progressing.
When I was in the hospital when the hospital doc stopped by to see me. I let the hospital and my docs, know what I actually drink, and that I smoke weed.
I guess the doc, and my pt as well (i found this out this morning), and I am guessing more of my medical people thought I had been drinking beer and smoking weed all my life. Not so.
I started the beer, 7years ago when I got divorced. I made the conscious decision to learn to drink and like beer, versus fruity drinks. I drink only couple of beers a night at the most..
The doc had a conversation with me the first day in the hospital, wanting to know if I could go without drinking. I looked at him like, why not, I don't drink that much anyway.
According to the united state government, although I may, may at the most drink a 1/2 case of beer (12) a week, I am 6 over the limit. I am an alcoholic.
yeah. The doc also prescribed folic acid and some other shit I don't take, because of said alcohol. I'm like, no, i don't take these pills while at home, why take them now.
After enlightening my PT as to the fact I just started drinking regularly 7years ago ad smoking weed regularly 3 years ago. He was like really. He thought I had been doing it all my life as well.
Does it matter how long I have been doing what I do. Hell, they would absolutely die if they knew about my sex life. Lord only knows what they would be doing then.
I am a responsible person, that works, and takes care of themselves. Have been since I was 17. I drink responsibly and smoke weed responsibly. I even take their damn precious pain meds responsibly.
I didn't realize the stigma attached to the drinking and smoking weed on a regular basis until I started witnessing people's attitudes towards me, the last couple years.
Especially when it involves weed. I will say this, given the chance to do it, I would have given my mother edibles so she would eat after chemo, versus watching her starve to death because she did not want to eat.
I say, if it works, I am healthy, not hurting anybody including myself, what the fuck.
That's all I can say.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here................thegrls
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Obviously I am not a good ass sitter
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Posted:Jul 22, 2015 5:09 am
Last Updated:Jul 22, 2015 10:07 am
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good morning, i hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face.
yesterday was one week, post surgery. I have been doing great, too great.
I have someone take me to Kroger. they dropped me off at the front door. I was like a in a candy story.
I was shopping, i was out of the house, and in a grocery store. I felt liberated, haha.
That was a short trip. felt good to be out.
when we got to the house, i put the groceries away, and did the dishes.
Then Boom, that was it. I was fatigued, dizzy, in pain and discomfort. All signs in that lil book, that told me i over did it.
Damn leg swelled up, i was like, maybe you really did over do it.
Propped both legs up on a pillow, with ice on the recuperating one, swelling is down.
Obviously dinner out one day, and the store the next day, were a lil much.
I feel great today, and want to do more, but guess what. I will be a good lil girl, and sit my ass around the house today.
I was a lil concerned with the leg being swelled like it was.
I know I had one job, set my ass around all day, and i couldn't do that, go figure.
have a great day.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here.................thegrls
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the trial run
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Posted:Jul 20, 2015 8:15 pm
Last Updated:Jul 21, 2015 1:21 pm
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good evening, i hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face.
The meet n greet yesterday did not happen. Supposedly post phoned. I am glad it didn't happen.
Why you ask, I will tell you.
My and I went to dinner this evening. It is my first outing since knee surgery a week ago.
It was out the door, in the car. work that knee.
It was a 30 minute ride with bent knee.
It was out of the car and into the restaurant. work that knee.
About 60 minutes with bent knee again. No amount of fidgeting helped me get comfortable.
Enjoy meal, and conversation.
Out the door, into the car. work that knee.
30 minutes to the house, with bent knee.
Out of the car, into the house. work that knee.
That was one of the hardest trips on me. I did not expect it to be that bad. That knee hurt me like a bitch. It can't remain in one position for more than about 20 minutes for me at this point.
I keep forgetting it's only been a week since I had major surgery.
I am a lousy recuperator. Being idle, or still is not one of my strong points.
Was I disappointed because the meet n greet didn't happen. Hell no.
I would have tried like hell to make it through the meet n greet if it did happen, but it would have hurt more than many of you know.
It was a pleasure to take the trial run with my . She is a trooper. We enjoyed great food, and great conversation.
Spending time with my , priceless.
The test run, opened my eyes. I definitely need more time to recuperate. damn.
There will always be time for another meet n greet.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here...............thegrls
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a meet n greet 6 days after surgery
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Posted:Jul 19, 2015 1:02 pm
Last Updated:Jul 20, 2015 7:58 pm
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good afternoon, i hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face.
I am feeling great today. ibuprophen, has always been my friend. I started taking it yesterday for the knee pain, and I'm great.
I have a tentative meet n greet set for later this evening.
I tell my i may have a meet n greet tonight, and her or my friend sharon may have to drop me off.
Oh hell, i was read the riot act. I am still laughing.
She starts; You do realize you just had knee surgery.
How long have you known this guy.
You can't meet him some other time. it's too early after surgery.
You can't walk fast.
There were more quips. She did this teasing me, because she knows her mother. Of course she just shook her head. My friend Sharon laughed.
I also have a tentative meet for tomorrow smoke, which i mentioned as well. My goes, now that I will take you to.
Seriously, that was ok. What am I going to do with her. She doesn't have her mother's priorities. 
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want................thegrls
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Somebody baby me please
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Posted:Jul 18, 2015 9:44 am
Last Updated:Jul 19, 2015 10:28 am
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good afternoon, i hope this finds you with that secret smile.
I plan on this being short and sweet.
I took my first shower in a week yesterday. It was pure ecstasy. would have been fun to enjoy it with someone.
One other thing, i feel like hell today. and, most of all, I feel UN-SEXY.
The good thing is, I will get better, this is temporary.
It's like i told this friend of mine. I couldn't do anything because i was working so much. and I still can do anything, except recuperate. damn.
I need to be babied today.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..............thegrls
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