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tresennui 67F
2879 posts
2/22/2020 9:11 pm

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4/23/2020 8:40 pm

I Give Up

It’s been way too long since I’ve met someone I felt a real connection with, I’ve been meeting nice guys, but they just aren’t fun to converse with, which leads to no desire to do anything else with.

Met someone for a drink tonight I had been texting with all week. I suspected from our conversations that there may not be a lot of laughs tonight, but as usual I thought I would make the effort and was hoping I’d be pleasantly surprised. I tend to give the benefit of the doubt.

The evening went as I unfortunately thought it would. Absolutely, nothing said that was remotely flirtatious. I can do small talk with anyone, but conversation felt forced the entire couple hours we sat at the bar. I finally said maybe we should it a night.

Got in my car to drive home ( barely a minute drive) and almost cried from the frustration and disappointment. I should have just stayed home had a nice dinner and watched a movie or a show I had dvr’d. Could it be he felt the way? I tend to assume I’m a fun date. Maybe I’m not?

I went for over 10 years easily finding men here that were personable, flirtatious and fun. I know these days people are more cautious about discussing sex and feelings of desire. But on a date, how else do you know if there’s chemistry?

Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui

s2ndegree 63M  
9800 posts
4/22/2020 1:05 pm

It's not my style.Besides it's not like I have a months bag
of offers that would change my personality to the point
I would eventually just see it as appropriate instead of what it is,cruel!

Using more than all the road!

packageman57 65M
1093 posts
2/24/2020 6:02 pm

Oh Tres....keep on trying...you are too nice of a person and fun to be with to boot. Some guy will figure it out and he'll be in for the ride of a lifetime. Wish our circumstances weren't what they are. Keep up the optimism.

tresennui replies on 2/29/2020 12:45 pm:
Sometimes I think I should go back to seeing married men...but then....nope can’t do it.

looking4u69ca 62M  
4324 posts
2/24/2020 2:44 pm

Don't give up. There is a funny, flirtatous gentleman out there looking for you.
Was this man flirting online with you?
You must have had some kind of vibe to accept going out together.
He is not the one. The one is still out there.

Winenuht 63M
185 posts
2/24/2020 10:04 am

Don't give up

redrockrascal 64M
23580 posts
2/23/2020 8:42 am

When you talk (not text) to a guy on the phone don't you get a feel for how they may be on a date?

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.

tresennui replies on 2/23/2020 9:18 am:
I’ve always used written communication. Love being able to text. I have found people open up more that way. I seldom talk on the phone, even for business. Email is the preference, I might be old, but in that way I am like the kids. Even my 94 year old father emails, though he hasn’t gotten into texting yet.

MrBlue5050 61M

2/23/2020 4:51 am

I agree with the other men. Set up a meeting for a drink, if you know right away that it is not right say I am sorry but I am not interested and walk away. You may hurt the persons feelings but you deserve to be happy. You have a very beautiful smile and no one wants to look at you frowning. When you smile your eyes light up and I bet you love to laugh!! Just being honest with the person letting them know how you feel.

Maduro_Hot_2020 42M

2/23/2020 4:46 am

Nice ☺

jajo696 67F
4287 posts
2/23/2020 3:05 am

ohhhhh Tres......just lower your expectations and go to dinner or drinks ....just because. Expect nothing and you may at some point be surprised.
I agree with you, you must spend some time talking beforehand to get to a certain comfort level. Like with this guy, you knew in your heart that there would be not much.....so you go with that thought. Its just gonna be drinks n convo. Are you sensing they are not for you ...as a sex partner.....as a friend.....as an escort for events. I know people who have friends lined up for all those categories and then some....lol

If you sense they are not for you in any capacity, just politely decline the intial invitation. Good Luck ~~

Heathen_G 63M
7974 posts
2/22/2020 11:10 pm

But on a date, ....You were not on a "Date". You agreed to a first meeting. Don't make the mistake of texting with someone for days or weeks , before a first meeting.

how else do you know if there’s chemistry? .... You know within the first 10 seconds of meeting , if there is any chemistry, and more importantly if you ever want to see that person naked. Only 10 seconds, and you know. Trust your intuition.

An hour, two? .... Nope... Just 10 seconds.

How do you end a date .... [in a nut shell] ... Get up, put on the clothes, and leave.

How do you end a meeting with someone you immediately sense is not for you? .... I say , "Bye", or , "Nope, this won't work", and walk away.

Lkn4funwith2 57M
1216 posts
2/22/2020 10:29 pm

Before you meet in person, you must both agree to cut the meeting short as soon as either of you feel that it will not work. If the man does not accept, then avoid meeting.

tresennui 67F
2482 posts
2/22/2020 9:17 pm

An hour, two? If you know for the first minute? How do you end a date with someone you immediately sense is not for you?

Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui

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